I lost my hubby 7 weeks ago. We were married 55yrs and knew him since I was 12yrs. We had a wonderful life together raising 2 children.He was first diagnosed with cancer 10yrs ago. But since Xmas 23 he had been going down hill. I knew the time was running out for him. When he died I was upset but somehow accepted it. But now 7wks later I can’t stop crying and have no reason or motivation to do anything. I’ve never lived alone and feel so vulnerable and lonely. My daughter lives local to me and I go to my daughters once a week for dinner but never get time alone with her she has a new partner and a new life and my son phones me most days but lives 1.5hrs away. Am I being selfish in thinking my children should be spending more time with me. Feel so sad.
I’m sorry you lost your lifelong partner, I can only imagine how difficult everything is for you now, such a massive change to adapt to.
I also watched my man getting worse, the Winter took him as I knew it would. When he died that day I wasn’t really surprised, hence me phoning the hospital to see if they had him. It does hit you hard later on.
I think you are fortunate in joining your daughter for a meal each week, and that your son calls you almost every. They have lost their father and are also dealing with their own grief, very different to yours, I know, but it will be hard for them, too.
I have posted on this site before that we cannot look to our offspring for our social life. My daughter recently invited her boyfriend’s dad over for Sunday lunch, as his wife was abroad on holiday and they didn’t want him to eat by himself; I have never been invited for Sunday lunch! They see me as strong and getting on with it. Never mind, I said nothing, and they did take me out for dinner last night for my birthday 
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