Hi I lost my beloved mum on the 2nd July.
She lived with me for 18 years and I am struggling everyday tormenting myself with mum’s belongings it’s heartbreaking
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Hi,
I’m so sorry for your loss. Your grief is very raw at the moment, I found the very early days horrendous, but some days aren’t quite as bad now, although I still have terrible days too.
I feel your pain, I lost my mum in March and she’d lived with me for the past 12 years. I understand what you mean about being surrounded by their belongings, I have to admit i still haven’t managed to touch my mum’s stuff as yet and that’s after over 4 months. The reminders are everywhere and it’s heartbreaking.
Please know that your not alone and there are many others on here who will relate to his you’re feeling. Sending you love x
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Hi Lucy
Thanks for your email it’s very kind, it’s still very raw for you too I send you my love, in one way I think it would be easier just to clear it out but then I feel so guilty, my mum would not have wanted that.
Not sure how to deal with it xx
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It’s a double edged sword isn’t it because in one sense it’s painful but in another it’s like your mum is all around you and perhaps that’s a comfort? You don’t need to throw anything out if you don’t want to, there is no rush to do anything.
I didn’t live with my mum but she lived alone (and was happy with that) and I go there every couple of weeks to tidy up and water the plants and to feel her near me, but it’s utterly heartbreaking as it was our family home and when I park in the drive I know she won’t be there. Just beyond awful.
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Hello.
I was so sorry to read about your mum and how you are understandably feeling. I lost my wonderful mum 18 months ago and can’t put into words how much I love and miss her. I struggle through each day, I’ve no idea how. Like you, I lived with my mum too. I never married and so had been with my mum for 58 years. After she died, which was 16 years after we lost my Dad, I realised that the longest I’d ever been apart from mum was for 2 weeks in my mid 30s when I went on holiday to Greece with a boyfriend. Horrible holiday, I was awfully home sick. So, alone now other than for our 2 little dogs whom I’m so very grateful for, I long each day to get into bed at night for a little relief and rest away from the feelings of grief. I’m sure that you will do things your way even though you probably won’t even know what your way is……so long as we get through the day, I guess that’s the important thing. It doesn’t matter how or when one does things, just getting up and somehow, getting to the end of the day is an amazing achievement. Lots of lovely people on here in this club we would rather not have to be in. Take care of yourself. 
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Thanks so much xx
You are ever so welcome. Please know I’m thinking of you.
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Thanks it’s very hard thinking of you too xx
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