Loosing my nanna in February

Losing a grandparent
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Hi i looked afternoon my nanna for 5 years with dementia and breast cancer. I had to put her in a home for her safety may 24. I visited twice a day slowly she forgot who i was but i still went and looked after her. She passed away with me by her side in February. I have had to deal with everything myself and i feel so guilty as i can’t greave for her i still find myself getting ready to go see her. I do i deal with this

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Hello @Nanna2 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your nanna. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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Thank you for sharing this, and I am so very sorry for your loss. It’s sounds like you did all you could for her, and I imagine from what you say that you were very close, and no doubt miss her greatly.

My nanna passed in February, after having dementia for 13 years, it has been very sad and painful, seeing someone fade, whilst they are still present in some ways. I find the term ambiguous grief sits best for me, and I hope as time passes, you get what you need and are able to let go of some of the guilt. I say this as having guilt for not visiting enough during this time, or feeling I could have done more.

Sending thoughts your way, I’m sure she appreciated everything you did and trust you will grieve in your own way, and in your own time.