5 weeks ago, I list ny adult son. He was found in a park, when the Gardai told me, I didn’t believe them.
The pain us only becoming deeper and more intense. I now see him everywhere and am so lost, the last 2 days I’ve cried all day.
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I’m so sorry, it’s the most awful, unbelievable thing to lose a child.
My eldest son died unexpectedly in November. He was 40.
I still cry most days and just find it so hard to accept that he’s not here.
There are a lot of parents on here who have lost their adult children unfortunately.
Take it day by day x
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Thank you for your reply.
The pain seems more intense, I feel such a strong pull to see him again.
Because, his death was so unexpected and sudden, I think I’ve been in shock.
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I think you’re right about the shock.
It’s a massive thing to comprehend and it’s not the natural order of how we’re supposed to ‘go’ is it ?
Do you have family to support you ?
I found I pushed people away, to a certain extent I still am but I just think people have to accept how I am. Some days are better than others and I have to be selfish and think of myself.
I’m not sure I will ever accept the death of my son, my heart has changed and a part of me has gone too.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my son 5 weeks ago. He passed away suddenly and unexpectedly. I was talking to him he said he needed to sit down for a minute and with that he was gone. I cannot understand what happened, I cry ever day. Today is worse as I am in hospital and it’s the first night I haven’t been with my husband. The pain is so bad. I don’t think I will ever be able to live again. Part of me died with him that day
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Thank you for your thoughts. I’m sorry for your loss too.
Although, my son was 40, I have birth to him.
When he came into this world I held him in my arms, now he has left this world I will hold him in my heart for ever.
I keep seeing him, my world is empty and sad.
I loved him and miss him so much.
My heart aches.
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@Greys I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my youngest son 4 years ago suddenly. He was 28. My advice is take it hour by hour, day by day, I still do that now. Dont put any pressure on yourself, people will try to help but do what you feel is right for you.
Please talk on here, it helps to know there are others out there who know exactly how you’re feeling and that we are not going mad. Look after yourself x
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I’m so sorry for your loss Gill1960,
Yes, it’s an unimaginable pain. I long to see him, but, the reality is onky dawning on me now.
To loose one’s child is cruel.
I have ny son’s dog, which is a greyhound, she gets me out every morning and evening.
I try to be grateful for the small things every day.
I’m lucky to live beside the biggest natural park in Europe.
Nature helps fir me to be close to him,.
Our pain, I know will never go, I hope it becomes less intense.
My heart us broken.
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@Greys yes I also love being outside, countryside, beach, long walks. I’m not an exercise sort of person but walking really helps me, helps clear my minds even if only for a Short while xx
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