6 weeks ago I lost my 22 year old son. I laid him to rest 4 days ago and yesterday was his 23rd birthday. My heart is broken 
. He was failed by multiple services. He was severely mentally unwell. I’m in a really dark place. Had he of had the right help he would still be here. I fought for years but he kept being let down. 82 ambulance call outs in just a year. He was desperate for help. I will never live a normal life x
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My heart goes out to you, Melanie. It is very hard if a death could have been prevented, but circumstances worked against you. Try not to think about that as it makes it harder for you. Unfortunately, we cannot control everything, even though I fully understand you. You were a great mother to him, I am sure.
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Hello Melanie22, I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your son. My heart goes out to you. I completely understand how devastating it can be when mental health services fail our children and families when we need them most.
My son was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder and was sectioned for his own safety. It took a long time to find the right help, and sadly much of the support we received was inadequate, to say the least. I lost my son two years ago, and I know how overwhelming, painful, and confusing those early days can feel. You haven’t mentioned whether you have found any support yet. I contacted Mind online and found a support worker who met with me weekly at a place of my choosing. At the time, I felt numb, scared, and completely lost, and I couldn’t even put into words how I was feeling. Having someone there to listen and support me made a difference. It might be worth reaching out to them. You deserve to have support around you, and there is no pressure to talk until you feel ready.
I’m sending you love and hugs 
Hello Melanie, so sorry for the loss of your precious son. There’s nothing I could possibly say to comfort you, the loss of a loved ones is so devastating , I hope you have support around you, thats what has helped me, people who helped me out at the beginning, with food and errands, cause I know its hard doing it on your own. May God bless and comfort you 
It’s very hard and I am heartbroken
@Melanie22 I am so so sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry for your loss I lost my son 6 weeks and 2 days ago to suicide, he was also extremely let down by organisations supposedly there to help. Two weeks prior to his death he attempted to end it all, he was found by police and taken to hospital. They then discharged him and told him to call the mental health team and make an appointment. He did and pleaded for help to be told you are on a waiting list
If you need to talk I’m always here 
I wish you all the love you deserve x
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I know. 
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