An so sorry @Love01 . My husband died of a pulmonary embolism in January. Absolutely no warning, no health issues. We were walking down the road to our house. He said he couldn’t breathe, his arms hurt, leant over a fence. A passerby helped me hold him up. I saw him take his last breath, along with one of my sons. The ambulance people tried to work on him but wouldn’t let me in the ambulance. Next thing, he has gone, there is a policeman and ambulance men in my front room passing me a bag of his belongings. I have been with him since I was 18, am now 60. It is such a an utter shock. I thought we had years left. Am so so sorry for your sudden loss.
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I am so sorry to hear that it was absolutely horrible i was the exact same my wife was fine that day we where away to and the sa.e thing happened to her i cant get over the trauma that i seen she knew i was there i i honestly hope that she never suffered in pain i watched everything that was going on i felt so helpless i was her hero i love and miss her sooo much i cry all the time we where ment to grow old together and do things that we wanted to do we built our lovely home together and on Tuesday coming it would ha e been 3 years in our forever home and then i have her birthday the following week
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I know how you feel am so sorry. We had so many plans this year and for the he future. I just remember him saying he want to lay down but we couldn’t move him. I have got through our wedding anniversary and am 5 and a half months in. It is still so shocking though. He would have been so sad to have left us.I so feel for you xxxx
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It is horrible as to how fast the pulmonary embolism happened i just cant get it out my head and just want to know if she suffered in pain and as to why this happened its such a shock you will be the same wanting to know it is so hard
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I don’t know if he was in pain. It was just so fast. All I know is that it happened so quickly. My daughter in law quickly drove there as it was about 2 minutes from our house. We laid him back in the front seat and literally saw him take his last breath. We had to wait for a post mortem for cause of death. That horrible time just after was an absolute shock of a nightmare. I am so sorry this happened to your lovely wife also xxxx
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I was the same i had to wait for the pm to i then had to travel back home without her which was horrible when i got the pm back i had to then travel back down to register her death i have been struggling with absolutely everything crying all the time
The travelling must have been awful for you. We were just about to go to Goa for my birthday. I dread to think of if it had happened a few days later. I am just mudding along as best as I can whereas it is still such early days for you. It’s been 5 and a half months for me but somehow I have made it this far. It is shocking that he got up, got dressed ,left the house at 11 and never came back. I understand everything that you are feeling xxx
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That is awful i honestly cant see a way that i can move on i cuddle her top every night i have only just got her jewellery back after the funeral which was very hard i am trying to get counselling but they is a waiting list and some places do t even see you till at least 6 months
I walk around in Dave’s clothes quite a bit.
He was such an absolute legend.
He wanted everyone to have a home. He worked tirelessly in advice services for homeless people all of his working life.
I just feel homeless and rudderless without him.
Has anyone else had strange phishing texts
? I’ve had a few after registering the death.
What sort of texts you had i just cant think straight thats nice that you wear his clothes it gives you comfort i have put my wifes wedding ring on my chain that she got me for my 50th last year i am.not looking forward to Tuesday as that will be us 3 years in our forever home then the following week it will be her birthday she would be 51 i honestly can not seethe rest off my life without her i have never stayed on my own i just dont want to eat all i have done is drink tea and the biscuits that she loved even though i was not that keen on them but now i am eating what she liked
I had some counseling earlier on. I phoned my doctor and got it through them free on the NHS. There is also something called Talking Therapies that you can self refer to yourself too and they will make an appointment to call you. 116 123 is the number for the Samaritans. They are there 24 hours a day and you can talk things through if you want to hear a voice. I haven’t done so but many people on this site have xxx
I spoke to a someone from my gp practice it was a link support he was nice but tbh did not take away in how i feel he did say that he would put a referral in for bereavement counselling and that they would be un contact with me he did say that it should be quicker than some others
The worst we’re: "this is my new number, dad’s
If I hadn’t have had Jacques with me, I probably would have bought into that one
I spend so much time avoiding going to bed currently.
I just miss Dave so much.
I carry my wifes phone about with me all the time and keep looking at our last day together we where so happy i really miss my beautiful wife sharon so much i hate the mornings as soon as i open my eyes it starts all over again i allso use her water bottle to it is pink with her name on the side of it i got it for her for work she used to fill it with delutied juice i now do that i have never felt pain hurt like this before i just want her back so much
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What sort of day did you have today
I am at the stage now where I keep so busy that I can’t think. About a month ago I had such a bad day, I thought I can’t go on like this. So today I have taken my dog for 2 long walks along the beach and been paddleboarding on the Norfolk Broads as that is where I live. I had a good cry this morning, then I make sure I tire myself out so I sleep. It took me a while to get to this stage though. I am sure you are still in utter shock, I am also because what we went through we just never saw it coming…I thought about you today . I wish we weren’t both in this position, along with everyone on here xxxx
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I had a really bad day today every morning when i wake up i cry and think i have to live thus all over again i only started going into work last week to see if it would help but it not i went into work today and one off the guys asked me how my weekend was well i lost it a d shout my weekends and my life will never be the same again
Mornings are the worst time of the day. You have done well to get to work. We both took early retirement in order to make the most of life as I lost my dad when he was young. It made us think. And now it is gone and somehow I have to adapt. I’m have good friends and family, but nobody can understand unless they have been through it xxxx
I am at work but my boss has been good i have told him i might be hear but my mind is not on the job he does understand everything he has been good to me i had a call today saying i have my first meeting next Thursday but to me that seems miles away i hate coming home to an empty house we where always together we would call when we drive to work or lunchtime a d when coming home i just wish i could pick up the phone and talk to her again i really really struggling and can not get it out my head what happened i look at pics and things that she has left and all i do is cry even going out anywhere that we both used to go i cry
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Am glad you have a good boss. I met my husband when I was 17 so have always been with him. It is actually like a bad dream. I know how sad you feel. I also have 2 sons who are devastated and I try not to let them see how I feel. It is so exhausting xx.