I lost my partner three weeks ago , but also lost my husband 12yrs ago , and I’m so depressed again , been to shop for cigs to calm my nerves , family mean well , but don’t understand
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Hello @PamelaG,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your partner and your husband. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
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l lost my husband on the 19th January 2024 ,and miss him especially in the evenings so i know how you feel.
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Hello Pamela,
I do feel for you. I have been widowed twice but when I was younger. Last July I lost my lovely partner very quickly. Life seems so unfair. I have had a hard time but at last I am beginning to get my brain out of the fog that I have been in. I am nearly 80 and my best friend also died a year ago. I am having counselling and that is helping. I have made a couple of new friends and that is also helping and I have also joined a choir and an exercise group. Life has changed so much but we must try to carry on because our late partners would not want us to be unhappy. It is vey early days for you yet so just take one day at a time. Sending Hugs. X Jan44
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I lost my husband in November. No, not lost, he died. I am lost, so lost. Its only been this past week that its registered he’s not coming back. My grief is totally overwhelming. I cant see through the fog. My life is upside down. Im having big anxiety issues and just can’t leave my house. Sorry for being so self absorbed but im not. Im husband absorbed
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Got to say lost my tina 15.12.23 and here I am still the same can honestly say I don’t want to be here anymore
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Hello yes shoulder neck arm
MRI scan next week. Diebeties blood levels to high as you no now on different pills also saying may be insulin soon x. Thanks for all your support x glad I’m back on here been in a dark place for week or so. Xx glad an happy. Now hope it lasts x
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Hi Martin . Glad that you are sorting your health issues out . Keep posting on here . We all know how hard life is for us now . But together we can help each other , especially through the really dark days . You have friends on here that care about you . As I’m sure you know . Hope you are still lighting your candle on a Sunday at 7 . Xtake carex
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Yep thanks been a rough couple of weeks hope all ok can’t find the rest of the gang who we spoke to little steps
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Lost my wife 29th July 2022 but feels like forever wish I could have her back so bad she’s the only one that loved us as us me and my team no one else
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Horrid mate lost tina 15.12.23 don’t matter what I try to do or get done it’s not right. Cooking for one doing shopping for one na. Don’t like it. Seem an I can here me self talking to tina. Next door must think I’m going nuts or well maybe I am look after yourself. Your not alone on here
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Not really test on Tues. Diebeties blood level 30 plus’s. Probably now borderline type 1. Test will tell mri scan on neck shoulder arm dead arm an hands. Trapped nerve in neck 14 days so far joys getting old hope everyone ok get back to chatting keeping us all close going through the loneliness x
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Jesus - they should have you on insulin already?
Yeah getting old isn’t for the faint hearted 
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Ha ha lol just had an hr true
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Hi! My husband died 16th November 2023. Its o ly this last few days that its really got to me. Anxiety +++. Can’t leave the house. My grief is totally immersive and insane. Everyday a duvet day to shut the world out x
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I had that two weeks back that’s why was quite on here but could here tina saying it’s not going to solve anything get a grip and do something there loads to do .and Tina right so I started. Kitchen a then dinning room also put Tina bike in. So clean that as well just trying to keep busy . I no when stop thoughts again xx only trying to help .but yes I’m also in a dark place life unfair x
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Nice bikes - the one inside house was that’s Tina’s?
Kawasaki Z1000
I used to have a z1000sx a few years back
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