Hi,
I lost my 27 year old partner suddenly in March, we have been together since college and have been through so much together. We would have been together 9 years this year. I’m really struggling with every aspect of life, I feel like half of me is missing. I miss him dearly and don’t know what to do with myself.
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Lth, I am sorry for your loss, grief is a hard taskmaster as all of us on this site know and understand. It is very early days for you but hopefully you will find some happy memories to help you even though they will probably bring a tear. I lost my wife just over a year ago, time and help from people who understand has helped me. Only people who have been through this will understand how you feel, on this site we all do, so come on for chat. I do find that it helps.
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Dear lth
I saw your post and have been wondering what I could say to ease your grief. The truth is that there are no magic words or solutions, you just have to battle through each day until you find some sort of equilibrium.
I lost my wife last December, we had been married 48 years and ‘normal’ for me is over. What the future holds is yet to be decided.
I have come to one conclusion though. I asked myself if I had known beforehand about all the pain her loss has brought me would I have married her in the first place. The answer was YES, I would do it all again in a heartbeat! My life has been made infinitely richer by sharing those 48 years with her. This thought gave me back some control over my despair because I had a choice over my destiny.
What about you, were those 9 years worth it? I suspect they were.
The only other advice I have for you is to look after yourself. Make sure you get enough sleep (yes, I know it’s difficult) and get enough to eat.
Widowed friends and relatives tell me that you never stop missing your partner but you can learn to live with it.
Take care.
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