How do I deal with loosing my mum? She was all I’ve known for all my life. My dad abandoned us when I was young, and she was my rock, I moved out two months before she passed and I haven’t been able to shake the guilt, I keep talking about the what ifs and it’s driving me insane. I don’t see much of a life without her in it. My future has become a blur and all I want is a hug from her to tell me it’s all gonna be okay. She was only 51. Any form of advice would be brilliant as I’m really struggling.
Hi @Juliet2
So sorry youre going through this. Losing your mum is so hard especially when you’re close abs that’s your person you call when you’re happy or sad.
When i first lost my mum i would go somewhere private (a nice pond at my local park) and talk to her outloud. Also when i couldn’t find peace i would just walk and walk and that seemed to help. You wont ever be the same but in time you will learn to live with it.
I found it really hard thinking about “what ifs” too. I would say try not to spend tome dwelling on those thoughts as id only ever feel worse after, so try not to go there at all. You are part of your mum and if you were close, when you need her you already know what she’d say. Tap into that part of yourself and try to be your own best friend, thats what she’d want im sure.
Id also like to think she still watches over me but this might not be your belief system. Maybe take time to think what you do believe and how you think she is with you / alive in spirit.
its a tough road but will get easier. Xx
Thankyou that really helps, I do believe she is watching over me and sending me signs that she’s here with me, I try not to think about the what ifs but I’m pretty sure the doctors made her worse and I feel like I need to get her justice in some way.
I do talk to her all the time what I would do to just hear her respond. It’s just so sad I never imagined I’d be losing my mum so soon. She had so much life to live for. I know it becomes easier to live with over time but I hate the idea of living a long life when she didn’t get to live hers to the fullest 
I’m so sorry for your loss 
I recently lost my mum, and she was my rock too. I’m 32 and she was 72. The ‘what-ifs’ and the longing to see her again are very hard; it’s a rollercoaster. The two things that help me are: knowing she would want me to be okay, and that she lives on, suffering-free, in some form - whether that be in spirit, in energy, or in the nature where she will soon be buried <3 Sending you strength; you’re not alone in the grief x
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Hi Juliet, please please you can’t blame yourself for moving out and having your own life…. there’s no ifs buts or maybes lovely. Whether you were there or not there’s nothing you could have done…. You already did your best …. Your Mum knew you loved and cared for her and is smiling now and she is so proud of you. I was 20 when I lost my Mum she was 57 . Mum was my everything too, I know I did my best to look after her… was buying medical books at 11 years old trying to help her with Medicine conta indications. There was nothing further I could have done….
Think of the Good laughs and memories you both shared… it does help and comfort you eventually.
Lost Mum in 1994 December 21st… long time ago although sometimes it feels like last week.
I’m always here if you need someone understanding to chat too x