Lose of my mum

Coping with bereavement
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Thank you ,I went to visit mum at the cemetery yesterday and had a chat with her .That helped .I know she with me every day and hoping today is better and yes ted will get lots of cuddles x

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My mum passed last November. These summer holidays are bringing back all the memories of when mum started to deteriate. I feellike im loosing the plot sometimes. I get so anxious about little things. Is this normally?Im waiting on cruise grief counselling. Love and strength to you all xxx

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I get like that also .i think its just part of the grieving. Sending you hugs x

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Thank you. I hope you are having a good day today ?xx

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Hi better than yesterday thank you x

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I think sadly the new normal is nothing is normal and anything can happen. One day is so different from the next and it is best to just accept and go with how that goes. Not alway easy when there is work and life to cope with.
I have generally found the less you plan the less you feel overwhelmed or have to cancel and feel you have failed. If you feel you can do stuff it is a good positive. Generally just take a day at a time. It does get less difficult and overwhelming X

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Hi Wendy
I was my mums carer also. And I am struggling to comprehend what happened. She started to deteriate this time last year. She had cancer and dementia. She was my best friend and passed away on November 23.
I think people think i should be over it by now. As I got upset yesterday whilst having a coffee with friends. My confidence has dropped. Im on waiting list for grief counselling. How do you cope? Xx

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Morning that really upsets me when people think you should be over your loss. Grief is different for everyone .Its still early days for you . I just do one day at a time. To be honest i don’t know how i cope or manage. We talk about mum everyday, somedays that helps and others it upsets me . All i can say is one day at a time and it doesn’t matter if you get upset .People dont understand until it happens to them .xx

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Thank you so much for your reply, Emma.
I know thats what I say to myself they dont know until it happens to them.
Although one of my friends’ mum died 2 years ago, and she has coped really well. She has a different story to me. I was with my mum every day caring for her.
Hope you have a good day today
Xx

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My friend lost her mum a month after my loss and she seems to cope alright also. But like you myself and my sister cared for mum every day .
Hope you have a good day too x

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Hi Emma sorry for your loss,
I lost my mum very suddenly and unexpectedly may this year I really don’t know how to process it all and really struggling with it all

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Hi Louise
Sorry for your loss. It all takes time .Everyone copes differently. Im still struggling to come to terms with it .my way is one day at a time. Lots of talking about mum and memories. Dont be afraid to cry ,get angry its all part of it .
Sending you hugs xxx

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Yeah it’s so hard just seems crazy that one minute she was here and the next gone,
The only comfort I take is that is the way she would of wanted to of gone as she was so scared to die so not knowing anything about it she got what she wanted bless her.

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Hi ya sorry for late reply i dont cope well either i am a bit of a loner dont have many friends now due to looking after mum i miss her so much if u want to add me if u got Facebook etc then feel free too i do go swimming sometime but its hard as i got health problems myself xx