Hi lost my husband six months ago I am not looking forward to Christmas as hubby was like a big kid asking what if any the presents were for him
I don’t even have the tree up as I just sit and cry as I miss him so much
Married for 37 years but been together for 44 years
Anyone else in the same position and how do I cope
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@Mazy1 My wife died two months ago today and I’m dreading Christmas. Lillian made a big thing of it, she absolutely loved everything about it.
We were together for forty years. Lillian was only 57 when she died in October.
I have no family and the friends I have are all doing their own thing. I am just going to treat Christmas as a normal day and hope the whole week is over quickly.
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Hi Mazy, I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my husband 9 months ago I too am really struggling I miss him so much we had been together for 40 years, I have
Just put my Xmas tree up and cried while I was doing it but I know he would have wanted me to put it up, take care
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I have absolutely no interest in Christmas. I have never liked it. I tolerated my home looking like Santa’s Grotto. Bloody trees everywhere. Then the garlands!! I don’t have to pretend this year. I will go to a church service and thats my lot. I will due what suits me.
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I also lost my husband 5 months ago i know exactly how you feal .Just dont know how to carry on but we have htwo honestly i am thinking the same how to move on as well sending love
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Hi Marie,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my wife Lillian just over two months ago. She was 57 and we had been together for forty years. I haven’t put any decorations up, it would be far too painful. Lillian always made a big thing of Christmas but it will be just another day for me this year. No family support and friends are doing their own thing.
I loved Lillian more than anything and always will. I miss her so much it’s unbearable.
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I put my tree up with lights. My husband died 3 months ago. I am trying to create normal as we always had a tree or 2 and I would be so depressed without the trees and wreaths at Christmas, so gloomy.
We each do as we want or must. For me, it is a must. I had to force myself and had a friend help, but I got it done and happy that I did.
Kind of selfish, but I’ve lost enough, I am keeping Christmas.
Much love.
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I unexpectedly lost my husband of 30 years just over a year ago so we’ve had one Christmas without him but at the time we were still pretty shell-shocked and I was running on adrenaline and determined to make the day ok and ‘normal’ for my sons. I think we were so shocked last Christmas that this year seems sadder somehow. For me and one son in particular the sadness is overwhelming. Had a phone call from old neighbours last night from a particularly happy spell of our life and it’s just floored me. I find the lead up to Christmas harder than the day itself. He would be so excited about Christmas. I do keep our traditions going as that’s what he would have wanted and they’re our family traditions so for me, I need to keep doing them but realise this isn’t for everyone. Just such a sentimental time of year. Sending lots of love and hugs to all who are missing someone x
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I am so sorry for your loss, its nice to remember happier times but sometimes its just to painful as it reminds us what we have lost. we are all in this together arnt we and i am sending you and your family all my love,
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Thank you @Marie10 just nice to know you’re not on you’re own with all this. Love and strength to you to for getting through this spell xx
My husband passed away suddenly 4 weeks ago, we had put the decorations up 2 weeks before and when it happened i wanted to rip them all down, but he loved christmas and i have left them up for our grandchildren. I dont want christmas anymore
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My husband died eight months ago and the grief is still raw and makes me feel very insecure now I am on my own. I struggle to get through each day, suffer with anxiety and depression and feel constantly worn out. People around me think I am all doom and gloom but I have no idea how to move forward. The pain of grief some days is unbearable. I just about do what is necessary each day and find that hard. encounter.
Hi @Chezza1 so sorry to hear about your recent loss. That’s so tough at any time but being so close to Christmas must be especially so. Keep trying to get through each day and I hope having grandchildren around will mean you see their joy over Christmas even if it’s not your own and I hope this brings a little respite. Take care x
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Hi Alice, my heart goes out to you and i am sorry for your loss. I lost my husband too nine months ago, it is so difficult to move forward isnt it. If we can manage to do what is necessary for now i think we are not doing too bad, i feel i can only take one day at a time and i try not to think about the future too much as that causes me to be anxious and scared. Take Care
Hi Chezza i am so sorry for your loss it is so difficult isnt it, having your grandchildren around will hopefully help you at this really difficult time, if you need to talk we are always here and in the same boat as you so understand what you are going through, Take Care xx
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Hi … that’s just it … it is an awful time … lost my husband 8 months ago but he always said I want you to push on and be happy in life, so that’s all I think about x
Hi Alice and everyone on this page.
I am so sorry for your loss. I totally understand your grief. And how I for you and everyone .
I have lost my husband 3 1/2 months ago after 56 years together, In July.
This is my first Christmas. I am on my own in the house. I don’t feel like putting up any decoration. I feel like just treating Christmas Day as an any other day which is very difficult , every day waking up is hard.
My husband and I were likeable two pea in pod.
I am sorry for you all , as you too have lost partners of many years
Without my husband, I am at loss…
Friends says I am strong. I am dealing with my Grief well, but I don’t feel strong inside.
I wish for us all mental and physical strength to deal With our loss, which we will never forget in our life.
I know I will never forget my beloved husband/Friend of my life.
Take care, everyone, Love
I’m trying to get to Dec. 26th as best I can. I tried staying in denial about Christmas, but my feelings are not buying it.
Hi. I lost my husband in Sept.
Christmas does not interest me at all.
Sorry for all your losses.
I am lucky I suppose that a couple od friends have given me an invite on Christmas day.
I would say. If you feel up to it. Try to find out avout any meaks being organised on Christmas day and go.
Just to see someone else.
Its such a lonely time.
Hello Hassina
I really feel for your loss. I lost the love of my life after fifty glorious years together. He was the love of my life. Watching him suffer in illness is something I will never get over. No no tree or decorations up in my house I have nothing to celebrate only loss and pain. Everyone thinks I am strong but no I am dying myself with the uncontrollable loss in my life. Grief is the most wicked of emotions and takes it toll on those that loved beyond anything else in life. To have the most wonderful partners in our life we must be blessed but god its so hard when they leave us. No one will ever understand unless they have walked the road. Losing the love of your life is something one can never ever come to terms with . We have have to learn to live with grief. Not easy but we are still here and have to carry on again not easy each day is a struggle. I can only say that I am like a lot of you out there trying to get by. I wish you better days Hassina but understand how hard it is. xx