Hi, this is my first time posting here and looking for some advice I suppose.
Growing up it was always just my mam and myself, we were a team. She was ill for a long time but she died just at the end of November’24. Her friends have been nice but 2 of them have now said to me that I should move down the country to be closer to my cousin as there’s not really anything keeping me where I am currently. I feel even more on my own that I did before as with my full time caring role for my mam before my social life went down the drain so I’ve only got 2 real friends left and neither live that close by either, 1 is 40mins away and the other a 3 hour drive. I’m angry at my mams friends for saying this to me and feel like I don’t have a clue what the next right step is.
From a practical perspective do you need to make a decision right now - are you living in your mums house - will it need to be sold? Generally its recommended to not make any big life decisions whilst you are in early grief. So if you dont need to, i would say hang fire. If this is the town you have grown up in or lived in for many years, then you may find a security in being in familiar surroundings that evoke happy memories. To uproot and move somewhere else when your foundations have already been rocked is adding another stress at an already traumatic time. You might decide to settle where you are, and eventually reach out and find new friends and activities on your doorstep - you dont have to move towns to do that! But thats much much further down the line - for now just take one day at a time and allow yourself the time to grieve. Sending hugs 