I’ve been searching for a place where people like me can share the realities of losing a parent in your 20s. I’m finding navigating life since my Mum passed away 9 months ago nearly impossible, my Mum was my rock.
I am definitely not an open griever and at the moment the weight of everyone’s grief feels overwhelming. However, this has left me thinking about where I can turn and express how I am feeling. I sometimes feel like my grief is being overlooked, my Step-Dad is really struggling and definitely lets his grief dominate the conversations. I have reached out to his siblings to ask them to help more but they do not live locally. It is really tough because I don’t want to dismiss his grief but at the same time, I feel like mine is being dismissed.
I adore my friends but it is so hard for them to have any understanding as I am the first person in the group to have lost a parent and I feel as though I should be in a much better place than I am at this point…
@Betty3 I’m sorry to read that you have lost your mum at a younger age. I lost my husband suddenly and unexpectedly at the age of 53 years old. My son is 22. I really know how your step dad feels as I am so deep in grief and struggling so much of losing my soulmate.
I sometimes put on a mask for my son who has lost his dad and best friend, though he knows how much I am hurting. I don’t think your dad is trying to dismiss your grief. I think he is struggling with his own grief and most probably in shock and numb. My son has got some good friends that he talks to and he also talks to his dad best friend. In time your dad will be there for you. I do talk to my son about his dad and we light a candle for him every night. Big hugs xx
@Nori yes because one of his mates told me that he talks to him and some of his work colleagues. Has your husband got a best friend that he has known for years. Will they be there for your children as I think my son rather talk to my husband best friend then me. Xx
Yes I agree as my friend took me to bingo after my husband died at her club and everyone was over the age of 75. They had their own friends which they were clicky with. A support group I went to most people had lost their partners in their eighties which I found hard as my husband was 53 years old. I know everyone grief is unique but if my husband died in his eighties he would of had a full life and I would of got another 25/30 years with him. Xx
Hey there although I am not in my 20s I am 32 and recently lost my Mum.
You can message me if you like.
I definitely know what you are going through! Sending lots of love x
