Losing a parent young.

Hi all,

Maybe 25 isn’t that young, but it definitely feels it. I have a wonderful support system around me but find myself getting upset quite often that I don’t know anyone my age that’s gone through this, my friends can be quite insensitive to it, even making fun of me two days after she passed away for not being totally happy.

Because my mum was terminally ill for four years I thought after a few months I would be able to get on with my life but I still cry every day and stress about all the things I’m going to miss with her not being here, and all the things I miss about her.

I feel like my career won’t really set off due to the unfortunate timing of her passing, and every day that passes I have less and less confidence in myself.

I think at this point it feels a bit rambly but I was getting desperate and just didn’t know where else to go.

Thank you for reading though, it feels good to type out.


Hi Blaairee,

I’m so sorry to hear about your mum, what you have been through is terrible. You are very young at 25 and I bet it feels so unfair that it has happened to your mum. I am 45 and felt I was too young when I lost my mum in March and even I don’t know anyone personally of my age that it has happened to.

Unfortunately, your friends won’t be able to understand what you’re going through as it hasn’t happened to them. That’s why I think this site is so valuable to be able to connect with others in similar circumstances who are also grieving. It has certainly helped me to attempt to come to terms with my loss and hopefully it will do the same for you.

Please don’t bottle things up, just write on here any time you feel you need support or just want to vent. I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I can feel your pain and offer an understanding ear.

Sending you love :heartpulse:

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Hi, so sorry for your experience, losing your Mum at such a young age. No two ways about it, this will change your perspective on life. Grief for your loss will be with you always but you’ll learn how to live with it. My sons were aged 6 and 20 when they lost their Dad. The eldest has very determinedly lived his life to the full, travelling and making the most of opportunities. I think he felt a sense of mortality that his friends couldn’t relate to because they fortunately hadn’t experienced such devastating loss. Just know that this loss will no doubt have a profound influence and take your time to grieve. Best wishes xx


I know this is an old thread, but when we were fully, and probably quite complacently, expecting my dad to live until he was near 100, like his dad, I should have had another 24 years with him. 24 years of friendship, love, support and guidance. As it is, I’m 39, and he had not long since turned 76. All because his primary care practice cut corners and gave him a ‘trainee clinical practitioner’ to see for his chronic cough, which was in fact a symptom of ischemic heart disease. The loss and trauma is going to affect me for life. :broken_heart:

I guess the lesson is that, as much as we prepare and plan for the future, we only really have the present :broken_heart:.

I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad, 39 is certainly a young age to be going through this and especially so as you feel there was more that could and should have been done to help him. I also feel robbed of extra years with my mum, who was 77 when she passed last year, so I do understand some of what you are going through.

It really does make you sit back and think about appreciating what we have in the here and now, although that doesn’t help with our grief. I’m trying to think more positively by remembering the good times and being thankful for the time we did have, but I have to say it is extremely difficult.

Keep posting and sharing on here with others who can empathise, I have found it to be by far the best way of coping with my loss. Sending you love and strength xx


Thank you Lucy, it’s just not fair is it. :broken_heart:

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