I lost my mum just over a year now and i find it very hard to cope with not having my mum around, i have self harm myself at times my gp knows about it, the days at the moment leading up to.l christmas is hard
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Hello @Jeanniew ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling.
I’m really sorry to hear that you are struggling with self-harm. We know that grief can be so painful to cope with. But it’s important that you reach out for support with this; you matter and you don’t have to do this alone.
- Mind have a guide on self-harm which talks about ways that you can help yourself and where to get treatment and support.
- Samaritans are available 24/7 to talk about anything that you are worried about in confidence. You can call them on 116 123.
- Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
- You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline .
Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
Please do reach out for further support - you are important and deserve help.
Take good care,
Alex
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Thank you i will try
Sending thoughts to you & a big hug, life is so hard when things happen that change our day to day world. I’m there at the moment too, our scars tell our stories of pain. I forget xmas, just take it day to day is best way. 
I am trying to take it day by day, it really hard, one moment i feel ok that the next i don’t
I get that the anxiety of the loss takes over , i’m same, thoughts come & the panic starts & & back to square one… all yer can do is see it as a process which i know doesn’t help in the moment. Do you find it beneficial to talk about it that can get you upset to bring out tears of grief that help or not? For me i just need to cry & cry.
I have tried to talk about it. That i can not cry even thou i want to cry it just do not seem ro happen
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