I lost my partner of 10 years yesterday (Saturday 19th) and am struggling with my grief. Any advice?
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Ali, I am so sorry for your loss, I lost my darling wife of 52 years in April last year. My grief was overwhelming. People who have not been though the grief of loosing their partner will not understand how you feel. All I can say is try and remember you and your partner having a happy moment maybe something that you did that made them laugh.
It is hard and we on this site are going though this. So don’t hesitate to come on for a chat.
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Thanks Rob. My grief seems to come and go in waves and I can’t believe he has left me. I feel so angry, but I know he is in a better place and is now at peace and pain free. It doesn’t make it any less upsetting though
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Ali so sorry to hear of your loss - it’s a positive you’ve found this community and are reaching out. There is practical advice (so much paperwork initially and in the first year or so I found at least) but mainly we can give and emotional support and empathy from being on the journey. On that front my one thing is be kind to yourself. Others will look to you , expect you to “bounce back” but no one knows the grief you feel except yourself and it will often take all your energy. Empower yourself to say no /stop and take it slowly . Use this forum to vent when you need to - you’re not alone . Take good care of yourself. Much love
@Ali191 I’m so sorry for your loss. My advice would be at the moment to take one day at a time, don’t try to think too far ahead, look after yourself, try to eat (even though you may not want to), drink water (crying dehydrates so much I found), sleep when and if you can (grieving is exhausting). Remember you are not alone, we understand and anytime you need to just reach out on this forum, take care xx
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