Hi. I’m sorry to post but I am struggling to find a group / someone to help. I am so sorry for everyone’s loss on this group, and if what I am going through is not appropriate here, please let me know and I will leave.
I was in an abusive relationship which I left and I managed to keep my home and my 2 boys. I was confident and happy for 3 years and then met a previous boyfriend who I had always regreted splitting up from. Long story short, it took a lot for me and my boys to let him in to our lives but we did. He was going to move in with us permanently and the boys had just started calling him dad. He was my soulmate .
I made some tough life decisions based on the fact that he would be with us. I took a new job and unfortunately that unearthed something about him that I can’t forgive. Social sevices have said if I keep in contact I’ll lose my kids (which will never happen as they are my world), and my new employer has said I could lose my job. I know I have not suffered a bereavement but I feel like I have. He was here in the morning and then gone before the boys got home. I am devastated. I am trying to balance a new job and helping the boys whilst trying to come to terms with it myself. I just feel alone and that I’m going through beavement (whilst not). I thought he was our forever and I’ll never see him again. I’m sorry if this isn’t appropriate for this forum, but I just don’t know where else to go
Thank you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. I’m really sorry to hear about the difficult and painful situation you’re in. It’s clear how much you care for your children and how hard you’ve worked to protect them. Although what you’re facing may not be a traditional bereavement, it’s completely understandable that you’re experiencing such deep grief and loss. It can feel just as devastating when someone you care about is suddenly removed from your life in such a difficult way.
I want to reassure you that your feelings are valid, and you’re not alone in going through something that feels like a loss. While this forum primarily focuses on bereavement, I want to offer you a warm welcome to the community if you feel that connecting with others might be helpful. Many people here have been through different kinds of loss, and you may find some comfort in their shared experiences.
In addition, here are some resources that may be helpful for what you’re experiencing:
Refuge offers support and advice for women and children who are experiencing domestic abuse.
Women’s Aid is a national charity supporting women and children affected by domestic violence and abuse.
Citizens Advice offers guidance on work-related issues, including legal advice if you’re concerned about your job.
If you’d prefer other support or resources, please don’t hesitate to let me know. Your well-being is incredibly important, and I hope you can find the strength and support you need as you move forward.