I’ve been thinking the same way. Was worried that was weird, but at least I’m not alone!
Ive read that with a close bond the brain actually encodes the relationship as one unit i.e. “we/us” rather than you and them. Thats why when one half passes it literally feels like part of you is missing.
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How interesting and it sounds logical. That would explain the pain very well.
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Sorry for your loss Ulma, makes it so difficult when you have a close relationship. I often say to people I dont think I will ever be the same person i was without mom. I don’t think I have accepted losing her yet, just take each day as it cones
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It’s hard to accept. It feels like trying to climb Mount Everest without proper equipment. An insurmountable task. Day by day is only way to cope. 
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Just 4 weeks ago my mum passed away , early days still not come to terms with it all , but the amount of letters , phone calls , visits to bank , solicitors , it’s just a added pressure , surely these things can wait to after the funeral ,
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Yes i remember i felt the same @Nltt - i just wanted time to sit and be sad and felt there was suddenly this vast to do list. Some people prefer to keep busy but i found it overwhelming. If you have family who can share the workload make sure you use them. I ended up just setting a couple of tasks a day (used the planner on my phone) so it felt more manageable.
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Everybody you speak to are very understanding when you tell them what’s happened , but surely 3 weeks should be given to people to collect there thoughts , make arrangements for the funeral etc , seems this just one call informs local councils of a death
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It’s been 9 weeks Christmas eve since my mum passed away the first 10 days went in a blur for me and my sister registering sorting bank putting funeral in motion although my mum had already paid for her funeral we still needed to get the wheels moving the only good thing was there is a tell us once service where you phone them and they notify everything else like passport pension and so forth so I didn’t have the headache of doing that but those first 10 days before the funeral were very stressfull.
Hi Lucy , 4 weeks since my mum passed , how are coping with your loss , im very up and down at the moment , I feel lost in thoughts and sort of a empty feeling inside , it’s just awful to be honest ,
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It’s been 9 tough weeks not going to lie I’m absolutely heartbroken she wasn’t just my mum she was my best friend as well and although I have people around me I’ve never felt so alone and it’s killing me bit by bit each day Dr put me on medication but having some side effects today and I’m feeling quite unwell to be honest I just want to be with my mum so she can take this pain away
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Please stay strong , your mum wouldn’t won’t you to be ill , let’s hope the new year brings better times for all of us
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The side effects subsided and I’m feeling a lot better now we managed to get through Christmas it wasn’t the same and we included her in conversation as though my mum was there xx
Hi Lucy
Same here, managed to get through Christmas, wasn’t the same though. So hard to explain the feeling you have inside all day every day
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Yeah it didn’t feel right her never being there again it was sad actually and it was very quiet at the table normally me and mum would be gabbing away but she wasn’t there and I felt lost in a way, today has been ok now I’m lying here tears in my eyes missing her so much x
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Sending hugs for all those who have lost loved ones. Days are difficult and especially today. Going into the new year without mom, trying to look at today as an ordinary day. Will light a candle this evening and send hugs to heaven. Stay strong
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