I lost my best friend in May, i was struggling and thought i was getting better. But this hole doesnt feel like its getting better. Im really struggling. Im not sleeping properly. Ive tried over the counter tablets, everything. My sleep is so bad. Not just that i dont know who to talk to, i feel like i cant talk to people as i dont want them to think i should be ok now. I just need advice or something please help.
Hello
Don’t know how to make it go away or how to make you feel better. Just that when my friend died years ago missed her loads for ages until time passed and sort of went away. But that doesn’t help now. Perhaps it might help to write down the story of your friendship. I do this.
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Thank you for your response. Im so sorry for your loss. I will give that a go thank you very much 
I feel deep regret because I fell out with my friend for a while, all my fault, then, we made up but I didnt give her the dedication I should have. i was a rotten friend and didnt realise how wonderful she was, I cant believe I wont see her again and say how sorry I am, Im struggling.
Im sorry to hear about your friend, she would of know that you had so much love for her. She will be watching over you. I feel bad that i didnt see my friend as much as i did when she was in hospital. I work nights and didnt sleep well so when i was awake i had time to eat shower then work… but the guilt was alot. I still feel the guilt but its not so bad now. Try and surround yourself with positive people. It will take time, your friend would want you to carry on(not forget her i dont mean that). Maybe write down how you are feeling? Or get a photo and light a candle each night or on special occasions. It may help?
Thankyou for that. Yes, a candle would help I think. She was catholic and I did pop in our local church and I lit a candle for her. I will never forget her but I do hope I can cope with the pain given time.
Your more than welcome, i find that it is helping me. Might sound silly but i have a photo of my friend and i talk to her everyday. It hurts and its hard but it also helps me aswell if that makes sense? In time we will get there, theres no time limit on grieving. If you ever need a chat at all im always here. I know im a stranger but never feel like you have to bottle things up