I lost both my parents in 2 months, and I’m completely devastated.
My dad slowly became seriously ill with dementia/Alzheimer’s, so I made the decision to move back in with my mum to help care for him. It was a tough long road, until he gently passed away 2 months ago.
Suddenly, my mum died from influenza yesterday, she was in her 60s and never even touched a cigarette and was very healthy. I’m in their house with constant reminders of both of them, their clothes their ornaments their belongings it’s all a constant reminder that I’ll never see either of them ever again - I don’t even dare move some items because it feels just too sad to.
What do I do, I have literally no other family and I’m completely at a loss of what I should do to cope can someone please help advise?
Samozzy,
I’m so sorry.
Keeping posting on Sue Ryder, as people on here do understand
You’re never truly alone, as someone on here will always reply. Plus, do join on other threads, when you feel ready.
Yes, their stuff is terribly triggering and it’s awfully sad. (Several years down the line, I’ve ‘somewhat’ adjusted to their stuff. (Somedays, it will trigger me and other days I will gain comfort.)
I used Angela Harding, two Nature Concertina Cards to put in front of some of their smaller objects on bookcases and mantel pieces. They’re long decorative cards.
Perhaps, you might be able to find a grief meet up group near you?
Take care.
My heart goes out to you. I know every little thing is triggering and you don’t have to move anything until you’re ready. Just breathe, one minute at a time. Reach out to friends if you can and if you don’t have that option, posting and reading on here helps.
A lot of us, me included, have lost both parents, but there are also a few who have lost both almost at the same time, just like you. I hope they see this and comment. Know that you’re not alone.
Sending you wishes and a virtual hug. How truely awful for you.
I’m in the same boat and can empathise. Lost mum in November 23 and dad less than 3 weeks ago (9 weeks apart). Its so raw right now, as @Ulma says - minute by minute and hour by hour. Focus on very small things - eating/drinking, a walk, resting. I don’t have advice as I’m still in the very early stage myself. I took lose dose sleeping pill to help me along.
Try to catch your breath if you can and keep pisting here. It does help. Message me if you want a chat.
