Today I’ve received the most devastating new I never wanted to hear, my 82 year old dad had a massive stroke on Sunday, unable talk or swallow but they seemed hopeful so transferred him to a rehabilitation ward, however today the consultant told us that we need to prepare for the worst, the next 24hrs are critical to see if he responds to medication but when I seen my dad and he’s on oxygen and a feeding tube, he looked terrible, was sleeping as best as he could. I’m sat here at home thinking should I go back up there and sit with him what do I do, my anxiety is through the roof they never said it to stay and he’s not yet at the point of end of life this is being reviewed over the weekend. I guess what I’m wondering is it normal to feel so anxious to the point I feel like I can’t breathe? My dad was my last parent and feel gutted as it’s only be 21 months since my mam died xx
Sending hugs. 
I would be more worried if you didn’t feel anxious at this point, it seems perfectly natural to me. And I think you should go and sit with him. If the next 24 hours in critical I believe it would ease your anxiety to be with him rather than sit at home waiting and wondering. Plus if something happens, you’re already there and won’t have to rush back. Fingers crossed he responds to the medication!
Thanks ulma, I’m at home now as he’s just sleeping a lot and the doctors have said they are reviewing it more on Monday as at the moment he’s comfortable. It’s heart wrenching as you can’t sit with them all day as at the moment he’s not at the stage of end of life, so stuck in limbo. I just feel so stressed and nervous at the time, when my mam died it was suddenly so never had time to think plus my dad was there for support but this time he’s not. Hope you are ok and well thanks for just replying it really helped 
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Two years ago I was much in the same situation, so I can relate. Dad was my support when mum passed and when he got ill and was in the hospital, it was a nightmare. Glad to hear he’s comfortable right now. Sending thoughts of strength.
Thank you so much, it’s a horrible journey we all have been on, we have to just live life to our best and take it day by day