It has been 12 months since losing my partner suddenly from a stroke. Since then I have suffered depression, anxiety and illness. However, no-one understands that after a year you could still be struggling. I have counselling. I have lost a friend who initially was very good to me but then started to control me - what I should eat etc., so we had an argument and she does not want anything to do with me. She has now sent me a nasty message because I did not say hello to her when I saw her. I am not good at confrontation and I know that I just did not handle it well when I saw her but I do not think I deserve nasty messages when I am still struggling with losing my partner.
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Sorry for your loss. Your friend doesn’t understand the pain of losing a loved one and to be honest you can do without people like that at the moment. You need people to be supportive and understanding.
I think people really do not understand and have no idea of the devastation the loss of a partner has on you.
But that isn’t an excuse.
Sadly we have to just move on from friends who are not willing or able to support us. One day they will understand sadly but in the mean time it’s best just to let that friendship slip away. Especially if they are sending nasty messages. You really don’t need that.
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Unfortunately this friend supported me when my partner died but then tried to control me which led to an argument. I was always grateful for the support she gave me but now she has turned against me and I do not know how to handle it. My depression and anxiety has returned when I was just beginning to feel a bit better. I did not sleep at all last night.
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