Hi I lost my husband suddenly to a heart attack I’m only in my mid 40’s with two teenagers it has now been 5 months since his passing and I wondered how other people on my position cope with thoughts of the future? We had a great marriage and were best friends too and whilst I’m trying to support my children on how to try and move forward with their life plans I can’t even begin to think about me as I don’t see any - how do others feel?
I’m telling myself to stop thinking about the future, well apart from the next week. I’m early 50’s and my children are early 20’s. I have had what I thought my future held taken away from me so now I am just taking one day or one week at a time. I am, more than ever, fully aware life can change just like that and life can be short so I am intending to enjoy my life (it’s early days for me yet) and do things that I want to do. My husband had his life cut tragically short so I feel duty bound to make sure I live life to the fullest.
Have you looked at joining WAY to connect with others your age group?
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Agree with the sentiment of 1 day / 1 week at a time and I guess having just had everything taken away in an instant has a massive impact on my outlook but agree life is so precious and short I am looking at making happy memories with the children I guess it’s probably best not to worry or plan for the future too much and the anxiety I feel is for the future for me and what that may bring but thanks for the advice about WAY I’ll take a look. Take care x
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My husband died suddenly of a heart attack without any warning signs. I’m now nearly one year in and struggling to see how to keep going. I cant imagine living another 30 years without him. Don’t want anyone else, just want to go to wherever he is.
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Completely understand how you feel I feel the same for myself but I also know he would want me to keep going with the children as they need me now more than ever and I just hope we will be together again on the other side. We don’t need to be with another we need to live life for us and them. I would like to honour his memory by still doing a few things we had planned as I feel he will still be along side me if that makes sense and he is still my husband and always will be. It is scary being left with all future plans gone in an instant with our other half so maybe trying to honour them by doing things to still feel close is all we can do now.