Losing is so hard

Life is so lonely without my wife I miss her so much I sit now with our three dog you miss her. I talk to her every day but not the same people tell will get better in time but I cannot think that life will never get better

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I’m nearly a year since I lost my Keef and still, despite what people try to tell me, have dreadful days. I got two cats in the Spring and that made things slightly better, gave me a reason for getting up in the morning, but they are not very good at having a conversation with! I text, talk and write to my husband most days, but I suppose after having someone there for nearly 44 years it’s so hard to let go. When I’m at home I feel so lonely, the dark days and nights don’t help, but I usually manage to put on a brave face when I go out because I think that’s what people expect. Some days are a bit better but nothing will ever fill that gaping hole. Take care and speak to people on here anytime as we all understand how hard everything can be. Gail xx

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Thank you for your kind words my wife went for operation but never came round that on November 29 a day I will never forget she did everything for me had known her from when she was seventeen going through all the old pictures but nothing helps ones again thank you.take care.

Hi @sadman2
So sorry for your loss.
Some says will be better some will be worse. Sometimes you think im dealing with this then the wave of grief comes back. Im seven months in and have got through 1st anniversary 1st birthday 1st christmas 1st new year :sparkling_heart: but i still feel sad and upset. Today was one of these days i was trying to sort out some of my husbands work things and had total melt down. It felt like i was erasing his things presence throwing away part of his existence i hated it had to stop and left :broken_heart: everything maybe another day ill feel stonger.
Its not easy this new life we find ourselves living without them
Take care stay strong :two_hearts:
Lynne

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I understand what you are talking about every thing as change even my email address because it was both our first names they keep telling me this email address already exists. I find myself saying sorry to my wife for not being good enough always thought I would go first it would have been easier because I never felt pain like this.thank you for your kindness

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Hi @sadman2
Yes nothing prepares us for the pain.
But i would not have liked to put him through this pain if i had gone first.
I loved him so much like you loved your wife :heart: so taken on the grief and heartache is price we have to survive now for our parners
Lynne

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