Losing Mother In law.

I lost my Mother in Law nearly 4 months ago, from the day I met her we just got on, in fact my husband who was my boyfriend at the time and was heading to Iraq in Marines gave her my number and we talked all the time before we even met.
We got Married in 2004 and my husband wanted a life over here in Devon whilst his family live in N. Ireland, but even with the distance we just spoke a few times a week, Always and when we had our children she always would fly over and if we needed her she would always just be there, she was the best Mother in Law.
About 8 years ago I fell out with my parents and she was not only a Mother In Law but became my Mum and a very good friend.
She went into hospital in April as she had some difficulty with her breathing and whilst there went downhill, we found out she had a very rare form of cancer which had bypassed the liver and went to her heart, all four chambera needed replacing, an operation with a date was eventually put in place but someone brought in covid and she ended up worse and not having the operation and died.
There’s so much more to tell but I’m absolutely devestated and even go to physchic nights hoping to get a message from her, I miss her voice so much and my heart feels broken, I try to live my life with my husband and children but when there at work, school or College I just cry all the time…
She was the loveliest person and was loved by everyone.
Any help would be appreciated…


Hello @Ellalily12,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your Mother in Law. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

You might also want to read this article on coping with the loss of a parent: Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


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