Hi everybody, This is my first post although I have been reading all your heartfelt storiea. Thank you .
I Iost my Mum in January 2019.
I am at a stage in my grief when I’m thinking about her so much more now. At night when I wake up it’s all I think of.
I am not enjoying life as I think of never having or seeing my Mum again.
Because this is 2 years ago , I feel people think i should be over it. My husband and daughter are not emotional people. If I try and talk it’s brushed aside .
There is no sell by date for grief and everyone grieves differently, I guess I just want to know what I’m going through is normal. Thank you .
Hi kazwaz
I totally agree with your post. My mum died of a sudden brain haemorrhage in June 2019.
How I have survived the last 20 months is beyond me. My mum was my best friend and I am a shadow of my former self.
Like you, my partner and daughter seem to be ok. They miss mum terribly but dont get visibly emotional like I do. I can still cry several times a week.
I dont think people understand how raw it can still feel almost 2 years down the line.
I just accept that my life will never be the same and I will never be truly happy. I just have to make the most of the life I have now and remember that my partner and daughter are still here and need me
Cheryl x
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I’m sorry for your loss.
I lost my Mum 3 months ago but I know I will never lose the raw grief and the total loss. I don’t think what you are feeling is unusual at all. Our Mums are part of us, losing your Mum changes you as a person and it’s so much more than her simply not being here any more.
I miss my Mum terribly and I always will. I’m sorry you don’t seem to be getting a lot of support. People can be very insensitive without meaning to or realising it.
Take some comfort if you can from the fact that you are not the only one feeling the way you do and your feelings are quite normal.
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Dear,
Kazwaz,
So sorry for your loss,
Like you i feel exactly the same,the mornings are the worst. September 1st 2021 will be 4 years ago since i lost my Beautiful Mum,and August 31st this year will be 2 years since i lost my step-Dad as well,who was like my real Dad. I often speak to my Mum throughout the day,i have a canvas of her above my fireplace,and i small water filled photo i have in my bed. I can honestly say i am just not the same person anymore,i have to carry on for my 14 year old son,but like you don’t want to keep saying how lost i am without my Mum to my son,as i know it upsets him. I believe my Mum is around me,as i get a lot words come into my head,like: ‘‘Lucy it’s your Mum.’’ But it is such a different way of life now. Thoughts with you,Lucy,xxx
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Kazwaz,
Your grief is normal. It’s so painful losing a Mother. Society, seems to expect poeple either to move on from their grief or to hide it. I think the loss is something we carry with us for a long time. Hopefully, it will one day feel less raw.
Take care
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Hi,
I lost my Mum in 1984, when I was 24. I’m now 62! Yes I’m now older than my Mum was when she died. I think the thing that hurts me the most is that she never got to see my children or grandchild.
It’s not a pain that hurts every day, as it once did, so take comfort in that. But I think that the bond between a Mother and a Daughter is so strong it never breaks, just stretches, until we are re united.
Your loss is still very new and raw, the tears you shed are of course to be expected, don’t think any less of your husband or daughter as they didn’t experience the same bond that you had with your Mum.
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