Hi
I lost my mum on Mothers Day this year. I gave up work in December 2025 to help care for mum when she became ill at Christmas. Mum had dementia and organ failure. She passed away quite quickly after receiving a terminal diagnosis and her passing wasn’t peaceful. I have kept busy with the funeral arrangements but have fallen apart after the funeral as it’s hit me hard that I don’t have any purpose anymore. My dad is 82 and is lost and I’m also managing my girls grief. People mean well but I’m struggling with people saying you should get back to work. You need to keep busy when all I want to do sometimes is just be quiet and shut the blinds.
Or stay in bed if the girls aren’t here. I cared for mum for 2 years and full time at the end for 3 months. I miss her so much it takes my breath and I’m struggling to be around people and act normal
I am sorry to hear this . I lost my mum December 16th 2025 , the pain is still “brutal”. I was off work for 2 months , l am struggling at work and like yourself l just want to shut myself off. I look after dad who is blind and 85 . It is so hard , it was difficult last week as my sister wanted some of mums clothes to make memory bears , l sobbed as l could smell mum . My sister is off work , went back same time as me but has had to go off again . It was very quick with mum had alzheimer’s in dementia went in hospital then was put on end of of life , passed away in a nursing home which mum. Loved in their . I am currently on antidepressants whi h l am thinking of coming off as they are emotionally blunting me , and l feel l am not grieving as l should . I feel this pain will never end , they say it gets easier but l not so sure .I hope this helps , l find this forum has helped .
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Thank you for your reply. Sending you lots of hugs and I’m truly sorry for the loss of your mum. I find smells hard. I can’t go in her bedroom as it’s all her. X