Losing my beautiful mum

I lost my beautiful mum 4 weeks ago I was with mum when she passed mum had vascular dementia and the last stage was very heartbreaking.Mum last week of her life was so heartbreaking it’s still very raw but I can’t eat or sleep and am living on energy drinks and coke I can’t stop crying and questioning myself what if then a week later my mum dog passed away from what the vets say a broken heart I call the Sarmatian to night cause I want to be with my mum . Mum and skye have been cremated together as mum didn’t want to be buried but I just don’t know what to do with myself

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Hello @Ellakay,

I’m sorry to hear about your mum. I’m hearing how painful this is all feeling and I want you to know that you’re not alone. There’s always someone out there to help you through this.

It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to talk about how you’re feeling here. We know that a lot of people experience suicidal thoughts when they are grieving. We have a video about it here which you might find helpful:


There is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling. I’m glad you have called the Samaritans, but please do think about exploring some of these options below, too.

  • If these thoughts of suicide become overwhelming, please call 999 or contact your GP for an emergency appointment immediately.

  • Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

  • You can also find your local NHS urgent mental health helpline.

Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling.

You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.

You deserve care and support so please, @Ellakay, get in touch with one of these services.

Take good care,


Hi lovely I recently lost my mam just over 4 months ago I’m really struggling right now if you ever need someone to talk to I’m here. Everything is just so hard as my mam was my best friend the person I told everything to… Totally lost without her… I’m a couple of months ahead on this horrible rollercoaster of grief which I can’t say is getting any easier infact the opposite… maybe your mam needed her little dog with her… And to know they were together till the end is really comforting x


Thank you for your nice note ,no it seems to be worse to be honest I broke down and cry in the hairdresser’s on Thursday but they was really nice I felt embarrassed after but I can be ok one minute and the next am crying my world seem so empty without mum in it I talk to mum everyday but all I want is just to hear her talk to me one more time I heard my mum call me three times a couple of days ago which made me miss mum more

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Hi goldengreen

Sorry for your loss. I lost my mum 3 months ago in a rta. My mum did not have a chance. Iam so angry with everyone. I miss my mum so much. I never got to say goodbye as I did not go to the funeral as I suffer from anxiety and deperssion. My mum was my world. Iam lost without her. My partner does not understand how I feel. I wish my mum was here or I was with her

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Ohhh I’m so so sorry… I know most people unless they have been through it just don’t understand… which is so hard… and can come across heartless… If you ever want to talk I can always be there… As I understand… I’m struggling sleeping PTSD… panic attacks… It’s just a mess like still not sunk in… I’m always free if you would like to chat… X

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