In February of this year,I lost my best friend of 35 years John from vascular dementia and Parkinsons disease.On the 1st May I had to have Merlin a K.C.S. dog put to sleep.
Since the funeral of John which was at the end of February,hardly anybody has contacted me. I have phoned ,“friends”,they say they will phone back and have not. I go out every few days for food shopping and sometimes need to get home quickly as I am on my own and watching people together is too much at times. I am not feeling sorry for myself,simply feel lost and broken at 64 years of age. Good luck to everybody who is grieving,it is horrible.
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Hello David10
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread. I’m so sorry to hear about John. To then have to have Merlin put to sleep must have felt like an extra blow. I’m sorry that your friends haven’t been as supportive as you need either.
We are here for you. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care, Rhi
Rhi,thank you very much.
Hi David. I do hope you are well. I am sending you some love.
My best friend pass suddenly last month. I thought having the funeral yesterday would bring me closure and stop crying but it hasnt.
I send you love and light xxx
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Story,
My sincere condolences about your friend. One month ago is such a short time and must be so raw, The funeral is one step and then you take as long as you need to grieve. Seven months has passed since John died. I miss him every day and always will. Be kind to yourself.
@David10 Sorry you’re going thru this & primarily on your own. You’re right, grieving is just horrible. My Dad died in March & there are some days I can’t get my head around it. I just wanted you to know you’re not alone. I hope you have a nice day.
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Cee,
Many thanks ,for your kind words. So sorry,to read about your dad. You are not alone either. Best wishes and I am here if you need to talk.
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Hi Cee, So sorry for your loss of your dad…too sad. I also send you love and light. XXXXXXXXXX
Hi David, you mentioned 35 years of friendship, so literally he was like family. I miss my friend everyday. He was my family. Xxx
I wonder if it is annoying when we keep talking about our loved one when they are gone. I feel like its annoys people or I am going on a bit, but maybe I am over thinking. If only we could reverse time or have one more hour with our loved ones.
Virtual hugs to your both xxx
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Story,
Writing or talking about our loved ones ,is keeping their memory alive. Until ,somebody loses the most important person in their life, some people do not understand. John, was and is family .He sends me signals and I know when it is my turn ,John will call me over. I am ready to go ,if God says it is ok. God bless you and everybody who have lost special people.