I lost my best friend in April.
I’m having such a bad day. I’ve locked the door and told family i have a tummy bug. I just want to cry, but I know John would be telling me not to.
It’s approaching Johns birthday and I’m dreading it. When does it get any easier???
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Hi Jet, so sorry for your loss.
My wife passed on the 8th March 2025 and for me, it’s not got any easier. If anything these last few weeks have been worse.
I’ve just been out to take some pics of a chest freezer in the garage that I want to get rid of, before I move.
Came back in and burst into tears as I thought of Jackie who had bought it.
Those that tell you time is a healer are so wrong. You never heal, you just may learn to live with the devastating grief.
For me, it’s been like a rollercoaster over the 17 weeks and 1 day since she died in my arms, 10 feet away from where I am sat.
You, me and all of us here are heartbroken, but we have to keep going for our own sake and that of our family and friends.
You take care. 
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@Jet1
I am so sorry for your loss. I just feel I want to reach out to you through this website and give you a brotherly hug.
I lost my wife in December 2024 and it’s still early days for us both. Our brains, and indeed spirits, have not caught up yet with the change of circumstances. We desperately want the situation to normalise but it will take as long as it takes and can’t be rushed.
Telling your family that you have a tummy bug isn’t so far from the truth. Stress takes a heavy physical toll on our bodies resulting in sickness, joint pain, skin rashes etc.
For now make sure you are the number one priority. Eat little and often, make sure you drink plenty of water and try to get some sleep (yes I know that is difficult but sleep in the chair during the day if you have to).
Keep posting. Keep talking to us.
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Jet, When I feel like that I try and find some happy memories that Elizabeth and I made together. Rejoice in those memories. OK you are so sad and missing John, but wasn’t the time you spent together wonderful. They say grief is the price of love. I had 52 years with my Darling Elizabeth, she gave my two lovely children, that has resulted in two Grandchildren. How can that not be good. Sending you a huge hug, like from your brother.
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You are all amazing and so supportive!!
Thank you for listening and your kind words, andvthank you for the virtual hugs, they are so appreciated
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