My brother passed 5 days before his birthday. He was 72. He had been suffering with lung cancer these last 3 or 4 years. St his choice he is not having a funeral and as such I cannot go and say my final goodbye. I visited him in hospital the day before he passed and just before I left I kissed him and told him I loved him. As weak as he was he did manage to say he loved me too. I pray he took that message with him. I live alone and I am finding it so difficult as I look at things he helped me with such as putting up pictures and shelving and I picture him when he was doing it. The grief is terrible. I haven’t seen his wife or his daughter. They only respond if I text them. They had one viewing at the chapel but didn’t include me. I feel pushed out and aside by them and wonder if they only bothered with me because of him. It’s so cruel.
Hello @Sassylass,
Thank you for so bravely reaching out to the community. I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. It sounds like you are feeling alone with managing your grief, which is completely understandable.
You are not alone. We have many members who have experienced the loss of a sibling and will understand some of what you’re going through. You can read conversations our members have shared on our Losing a sibling category page.
You may also find it helpful to read our Losing a sibling page on our website. It talks you through some of what you might be feeling, and how to cope.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Take good care 
Alex
Hello
I am so sorry for the sad loss of your brother. I lost my only sibling Francis in Feb 2023 aged 58 to lung cancer, I totally understand how lonely things can be for you. My brother lived here at home with me and it’s very lonely without him and always will be. We lived here all our lives ,neither of us got married. This group is a great supportive group. You reach out anytime day or night, we are all in this together. Try to take care of yourself. Hugs to you
Thank you for your kind words. Yes it’s just seful. My brother took over as the head of the family really when dad died in 2016 and now there’s no one. Utterly heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your loss too. Bless you.