Losing my dad but gaining a grandson on the same day

I lost my dad quite suddenly in October. The day he had his stroke my daughter gave birth to my grandson. I was really close to my dad and even though i thought i was coping this week i feel it has all just hit me. Everytime my daughter gets excited about how old my grandson is getting its a reminder of the day i lost my dad. He didn’t actually pass on this date but was the day we lost him, as for 4 days he laid in a hospital bed fighting to stay with us. Everyone said grief would hit me at some point but i didn’t quite understand it until now. I find myself more sad than happy and tend to cry when no-one else is around. I don’t want my family to worry about me as there dealing with the lose of him too. Anyone got any tips on how to get through a day without any tears!

Hello, so sorry that you lost your dad, it’s heartbreaking when we loss those special people in our lives. There are one or two things that you can do but grief is different for everyone, we are all different. Main thing is to be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself up when you cry, crying releases the tension of trying to hold on to what you think of has normal. I know we all try to put that brave face on but honestly sometimes it’s the wrong thing to do. Take each day slowly and don’t think you have to do everything for everyone, being the strong one isn’t always the right thing to do. Personally, keeping busy but not over doing it, helps me and getting outside is must but as I say we are all different. Look after yourself at all times and be careful because you are vulnerable at present. Sending big hugs for you and the grandchildren. Sxx