Hello, I thought I would sign up and see if talking about my dad helps me in anyway.
My son said I should talk to someone but I feel I’m doing ok? My dad passed
Away in March this year and we were best friends, he was the only person that understood me . I could tell him anything. But I block out everything now ,I can’t look at pictures or think about him because I don’t want to cry or admit it’s really happened , so I just try and block it out ,I do think about dad I count to think of something else . I don’t know if this is healthy or not ? But I just don’t want to break down and cry because I will never stop . Thank you everyone .
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I understand i lost my dad in may and i dont think ive grieved yet! My kids got me framed photos for my bedroom and i just cant get over him gone! Im also scared the grief will catch up with me
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Hi Vicky, I completely understand your pain. I am in the same position and I can’t bear the reality.
It’s too overwhelming at the minute, I just can’t accept I’ll never see him again.
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Hi
I’m so sorry for your losses. I lost my Dad a month ago today after a shock diagnosis at the end of May that he only had a few weeks. Been a bit of a whirlwind. I totally understand the photo thing - I can’t bear to look at any either. I feel like I’m keeping a lid on something that might explode so also understand you guys talking about the grief maybe catching up at some point.
The only thing I have been doing is writing letters to him telling him about my day or what my son is up to or something I saw that I thought Dad would like. It’s helped a little bit.
I’m thinking of you all.
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Sending you all hugs for your losses.
I lost my Dad in July - my heart breaks for you all, my heart is broken too. The thought of them not being here is unbearable. I hope you can find a way through the pain.
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Hi Vicky, ive just signed up to this to see if it would help and your comment was the first thing I saw and it made me cry reading it as I feel exactly the same my dad was my best friend too (also my names Vicky) I feel so lost without him and he passed away in April 24 I feel I have days that are better than others than I have some days I just start breaking down. I always let myself cry tho if I need to, I think that it a good thing to do just go with the flow don’t hold
It back. I’m always looking at photos of him too, some days I smile to myself and some days I just burst into tears because I cannot believe it’s really happend. I spent every day with my dad if not every other day. Loved him to bits even if I went out drinking he was my favourite drinking partner I’d choose to go out with him than my mates any day we had the best laughs. But I feel your pain I’m going through it myself. I just find some days harder than others but don’t hold back if you feel the need to cry you should. I feel there’s a massive part of me missing loosing him. But I’m here if you need to chat may help us both to talk about it x
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Dear vicky ,
I know how you feel ,I cry all the time in public mostly ,I think it’s normal .
You have lost a person who you loved very much ! It’s no surprise that you try to divert your thoughts to stop feeling the hurt and loss .
Remember everyone greaves their way , there is no right or wrong way .
Best wishes julie woo.
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Hi Sarah, I really like your idea of writing letters. So much has happened since my dad passed that I really wanted to tell him. My Dad had only five weeks from diagnosis until he passed. It’s very hard to process. Thanks for that idea. x
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I lost my dad 29/11/2024 and i still feel numb
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My dad died back in 2018 when I was around 12 years old and I only figured out a few weeks ago that I blocked out the whole week period of time when he was dying so no matter what you do to cope with it, it is all normal everyone grief’s differently so it is all normal but I’m still struggling myself but just wanted to let you know that it does get better and I hope everyone here who has also lost they’re father will someday find peace and overcome this massive struggle we have all been presented with and we shall all one day be able to look back at photos and videos of them without being overwhelmed with sadness but instead joy and happiness. We’re all going through something different but the same so anyone else here who has also lost they’re father wether it is at a young age like myself or at an older age I would like to let everyone know all of our dads would be proud of us and are all looking down on us and that they’re love will be with all of us forever. 
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It’s really difficult …. Especially as you’re approaching the one year anniversary in November. So sorry for your loss Dave. 
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I lost my dad July 1st and it’s been the worst time of my life as he was my idol, hero and best friend also he did everything for my mum which now I have taken over with the help of carers, the fact that I can’t have conversations with him about footie, politics and general moan about life kills my heart I could cry everyday but being a husband and father I can’t keep showing these emotions, also with mum recently having a heart attack has added to my pain, I’ve had the pleasure and honour of taking on the upkeep of my mums affairs and taking over my dads finances which my half brother and sister hasn’t bothered with anything but I also hold a lot of anger and resentment for life which I normally don’t have but it’s frikkin hard.
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Hi, I’m really sorry to hear about your Dad 
I also lost my Dad in March, and I’m only really starting to feel like I’m at the top of the grieving iceberg now. I feel numb about most things, guilty about everything, and I’m having constant nightmares. I see my Dad in his hospital bed basically whenever I have a spare second in the day, and today I felt like there was a horrible pressure building up inside of me. I looked over our texts for the first time since he passed today, and I cried. It felt good to finally get some of the pressure out. I miss him so much. I hate that he’s gone, and I signed up to this to see if I could get some support from people who were also in the same boat as me. Sorry for the lack of paragraphs! If there’s any advice I could give you, it’s don’t bottle things up, sometimes you just need to cry Sending you, and everyone who’s recently lost their dad’s, lots of love x
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So sorry for your loss, it’s very painful. I’m now 8 months into my grieving journey and it’s not getting any easier. I’m here for anyone grieving who needs a chat or an understanding friend. x
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Hi Jess thanks for the message of love and I also am sorry for your loss and I get what you say totally looking back at messages, I’m the same with photos and videos and all the things I did with dad, I’m sorry for the nightmares you have but do not let them define you as a person, if you can be strong then so can I, and to everyone else that has lost someone special, we’re alive and it’s time to live to the full and enjoy other people and I know my dad would want me to fight and I’m sure that would be the case with your father, easy said than done I know, and for me I’m getting there slowly but being in this community I know I’m not alone and neither are you, time to turn these nightmares into serene dreams