Lost my dad on the 27th Nov 2025 been finding it really tough keep seeing him when we went to chapel of rest didn’t have a proper funeral as couldn’t afford it and had to be cremated by the hospital and ashes scattered at local crematory as my mum wouldn’t let me have his ashes struggled through Christmas and new year and just seems to have hit me harder recently is this normal and how does everyone else cope ? Xx
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Day by day hour by hour minute by minute. I am sorry for your situation, truly. 
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Thankyou I hope so
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Hi Laue, im sorry to hear things have been tough, im not as far into the grief journey as you (although i did also find xmas and new years hard!), but i wanted to share something a colleague mentioned to me. funerals are one way of creating rituals, but it’s possible to make your own rituals too. if there are any items or places or hobbies your dad loved doing, it might give you a sense of closeness to capture some of those things.
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Thankyou will have a think sorry to hear about you’re loss
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lost my dad last feb, he was in hospital for four weeks, I was there with him until the end, im really struggling, i cannot get those images of his time in hospital out of my head, his last moments, seeing him in the funeral home I think about it everyday. its like i dont want to forget, but very painful remembering it all if it makes sense.
I am very sorry for your loss. Your father you describe as very loved by you. Sending you both
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Hi there I lost my dad on the 29th November and I thought I was coping but I’m not it’s all come to ahead nw I’ve got bad anxiety nw I cnt really go out anywhere and I’m struggling I don’t how to get threw this I’m scared I’m not me anymore do u have any advice for me to cope with all this I know how hard it can get for everyone thanks
Hi I’m managing to get out briefly but regarding anxiety it’s really tough just take small steps even if outside you’re house or into garden if you have one then take it from there get a friend to come with you sending love and hugs
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Thankyou
we were very close thank you
Sorry for you’re loss it’s really hard having those images in you’re head I know have you got any other photos you can you look at that’s what I have to do regularly
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Thankyou I do have a pillow printed with photos on and looking at getting a teddy bear
No it’s normal as I’m the same with my dad . Christmas and new year was so hard