I lost my dad this morning, he went into hospital 4 weeks ago feeling unwell to then discover an incidental finding of advanced cancer. I nursed my dad in his last two weeks, his decline was so fast that even my dad didn’t get the chance to digest the news, my mum is absolutely heartbroken she has lost her sole mate I have lost my dad. Now my dad’s passing is over which I knew was coming however these emotions after such a traumatic experience is not something I was prepared for. I just cant believe that four weeks ago my dad walked into the hospital and four weeks later we were walking out without him 
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Dear Rachael,
I am so very sorry for your loss. I recently lost my dad too but he was diagnosed with cancer last July. We understood he had responded well to chemo and then in February this year he became breathless and rapidly deteriorated within 3 weeks. He and mom were also soul mates. It is the most surreal experience and I can only imagine how difficult it must be when your dad was diagnosed and deteriorated in a short space of time. I am currently staying with my mom as she is elderly and dad was her main carer. She misses him terribly. I comfort her as much as I can but feel frustrated that I can’t do anything that is going to make her pain go away.
Give yourself time to process the past few weeks as it must be such a shock. I have learned quickly that grief takes many forms. Just take it hour by hour, day by day and allow yourself the time to make sense of what has happened for you and your family. Thinking of you.
Thank you, its going to take time my mum is in bits which is harder as I now need to be strong for her when inside I am falling apart, there is so much to sort out when all you want to do is shut the door
I am equally so sorry to hear of your loss my dad didnt get the chance for treatment as he was so accurately unwell 