Hi im Michelle im 41 &I lost my dad 28 August 2020 it was secondary cancer when we found out he had 6 months he went within 6 weeks at home myself my brother &mum cared for him at home which was hard going but wudnt have changed it for the world as I wudnt have wanted him in hospital where we wudnt have been able to see him due to covid pandemic& Im struggling big time its been nearly a year on saturday&I still have out bursts of emotions at random times I miss him so much as we were so close I just feel lost &alone i live with my mum &12 year old son so I have to try to be strong but i cant all the time… sometimes I feel I have changed ive havent really seen my bf since the pandemic as we as a family were protecting my dad then after I felt scared /confused about losing my mum too so I havnet made effort to be with my man I know its silly but ive got no energy for it sounds bad I know it does but im struggling.
Dear Chelleb, I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad, you have been through a dreadful time, and my heart goes out to you, there is no time scale to grief, and unless you have been through it yourself, you have no idea, I lost my husband 10 years ago and I still miss him, have days when I feel so down, but luckily they are not so often now, what I’m saying is a year is such a short amount of time, what you are feeling is absolutely normal, it’s part of loving unfortunately, please seek some help, either from GP or bereavement counselling, sending love Jude xx
Thank you so much sorry for ur loss too . funnily enough I’ve finally got my appointment today for counselling ive been waiting for bereavement counseling since I asked about before Christmas so fingers crossed this will help me.xx I’m just struggling.x