Hi all, I lost my Dad in March and it is only just hitting me as I have all the practicalities surrounding Mom to sort out. I cared for Dad from his diagnosis right up until losing him. I’m reaching out to chat to others in the same situation as I feel so lost and alone at the minute xx
Hi @1Parker1, I lost my Dad in March too. Still can’t believe it. Blindly Bumbling thru this new existence & hating every minute so I kno somewhat of what you’re going thru. X
Thank-you so much for your response to my post, it means a lot it sounds like you’re in a very similar situation as me. I’m constantly in tears at the moment and can’t even accept the situation, sending you loads of love xx
I lost my dad in 2021 and I, like yourself, cared for him for 3 years before he passed.
I feel lost.
But I also feel so many other emotions too.
Hi, I’m sharon and i lost my dad in December to a brain tumour . From diagnosis, he passed on 7 weeks. I totally understand how you feel. Reaching out on this really does help. I feel very sad, i try to think of thehappy times but its so hard. Jeep talking to people and don’t bottle your feelings up . Youre not alone.
@1Parker1 Bless you & thx for your msg. I’m pretty much the same. Sobbed a lot when it happened, then I was ok for a bit, then it’s really hit me. I keep thinking he’s still in hospital & if I visit, he’d still be there. Mad really. Grief really torments the soul doesn’t it. Lots of love to you too. Xx
Hi, very similar situation here. Ive not long completed therapy for ptsd surrounding my dads death and now the grief is creeping in. It scars you, very deeply, and it changes everything. Its hard, very hard, but you adjust to a new normal. Love you my friend x
So sorry for your loss.
I lost my Dad suddenly last February.
I still can’t believe it.
Trying to be strong for my Mum, but because of this I don’t think I have grieved myself.
It really does change your life doesn’t it?
Hi , it definitely does change your life. You know its never going to be the same again, but i suppose we have to learn to live with the new normal. Our fanily too are trying to look after our mum . You must try and let yourself grieve though because bottling all those feelings will only make it harder.
I really don’t feel I have grieved for Dad. I try and think about him, but my brain won’t seem to let me. It’s like its just blocking everything.
I feel a lot of resentment towards my sister, who moved away several years ago. She’s not here to help with Mum and although she does vist regularly, I feel like she has no responsibilites and her life is just carrying on as normal.
I’m less stressed when I am at work, because I don’t have to feel guilty about not seeing Mum, but I’m struggling to cope with everything…Mum, keeping up with jobs at home, exercising and just having some sort of social life with my partner.
I struggle to get out of bed everyday.
@1Parker1 I lost my Dad 3 and a half weeks ago , I’m Looking after my mum but I am not coming well at all . Love to you . It’s a comfort to know someone else is going through it x
Im so sorry to hear about your dad. I do feel your pain. Its the worst ever feeling in the world. Your mum will need you but you have to look after yourself. Keep talking and try not to bottle your feelings up.im struggling at the minute. I have an amazing family and we all help eachother but when im on my own i start panicking when i think about never seeing dad again. Take one day at a time. Youre not alone x
Yes I do that as well . Can’t be alone it seems .
Thanks for the message
Im the same. My brother moved to London a few years ago. My dad passed away 2 months ago but I feel like i have to look after Mum as my brother is not here, he himself visits from time to time and said he’ll visut more often now but feel like i need to stay with my mum even though she says shell need to learn to live on her own. its heartbreaking to see and hear that.
It feels like the roles are reversed to me. I am the adult and it’s a bit of a shock to be honest.
Been away this weekend and feel so guilty for not seeing Mum.
Yeah was a shock for us too. Only was 3 weeks we knew, very sudden. If you ever need someone to chat too, send me a message anytime, all going through similar and talking does help ive realised x
I would like to thank each and everyone of you from the bottom of my heart for your replies, sending loads of love to you all xxx