Hi, i lost my dad 10 nonths ago it feels like yesterday , i feel as if my grief comes in waves , i also cannot believe how fast this year has gone, miss our chats on fone
How do you deal with your loss
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@Jackie8 - I lost my dad 8 months ago and struggle every day. I used to speak with him every day and miss him so so much. I just push myself to do normal things. Some days I don’t want to get out of bed or leave the house but push myself. This is going to take a long time to get over. Like you the sadness comes in waves and I can’t believe it’s nearly the first Xmas without him !! Here anytime you need a chat. It’s nice to speak with others who truly understand how you are feeling. It all so very sad isn’t it? Horrific and difficult.
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Thank you for replying, im same cant believe he wont be here for Christmas
It was my birthday not to long ago and i was waiting on him calling then reality
Hit me, i dont think we will ever get over
This ,
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You are welcome - you are not alone. My daughter got married 4 months after my dad died - wow that was difficult… wish I could give you some good advice but I can’t…we just have to try for them - they wouldn’t want us grieving like this - but it’s definitely something you cannot control. Hope you have a better day. And me too.
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@Jackie8 my dad used to phone me every birthday and sing happy birthday to me (and my brothers and his grandchildren) it was his ‘thing’ - I am luck that this year I didn’t pick up and I have it as a voicemail. It makes me cry but one day I’m sure we will laugh at it !
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Thats so special having a voicemail, i haven’t forgot the sound of his voice , sometimes i just feel this cant be right, why am i here but my dad isnt , losing our dads is an unbelievable loss 
Thank you for listening it means so much
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@Jackie8 . It’s horrific. I can’t actually put in to words how much of a loss this is for me. All these memories come up on my phone and I simply cannot believe it at all. Miss him so so much. He was like a best friend to me and living in London I traveled up to Glasgow every 2 weeks for the last 18 months. I loved it. I’m amazed at how many of us feel like this but it makes me feel so normal. I was with him to the end and for that I will always be grateful but some days I just can’t get the images out of my mind and that’s hard. Can’t get my head around it all. I’m here anytime for a chat
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m trying to figure out the world without my dad too. I’m very bad at it and miss him terribly. It does come in waves, I think that’s natural. 
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Its so true when they say we dont know how much pain loss of a parent causes
Same I lost my dad 6 months ago and it’s worse as the months go by I feel. Also just lost my uncle really unexpectedly on Sunday and think it’s affected me more as I’m now grieving for 2
@Jackie8 You’re right about the year going by rapidly. Lost my Dad in March & can’t believe it’s now November. Where has the time gone, that I’m nearer to one year than that fateful day with him? I’m just glad I can come on here to chat to ppl that know how this feels. Grief does come in waves like nausea & we relive their deaths every day. I’m sick of Christmas already but as another poster put: it’s just like any other day to get thru & I’m hoping that mantra will help when the time comes.
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Hello, I’m so sorry to hear of your loss.
My dad passed on in 1989 when I was 14.
My dad died of bone cancer. Absolutely the worst cancer to suffer from.
Life was truly wonderful when my dad was alive.
My childhood trauma was unique in the South Asian, Bangladeshi and medical communities.
I didn’t know what was going on that time. No one can prepare for the death of a loved one, yet most of us don’t discuss these things.
This is why I am very open with my community, as many families I know would be unable to cope with bereavement as they lack mental resolve.