Two weeks ago my dad died suddenly on his birthday of all days, and I am struggling so much we spoke most days had the same personality I can’t envisage a day when I don’t cry. I am also trying to be of support to my mother who has dementia, dad did everything for her so everything has fell on me there are no other family or friends I can ask for help. Although my small children are providing a welcome distraction I am leaning on my husband a lot at the moment. I am struggling with guilt a lot wondering if I had phoned him before he went to bed that night would I have sensed something was not right and could of saved him I just hope he knows how much he was loved and I hope I can get through this, but at the moment it feels impossible.
Hello @Flossy2,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dad. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
Hi there i am so sorry for your loss i lost my dad a year ago to cancer. He was diagnosed in September and died in February 2023. He refused chemotherapy which I was initially against but I had to respect his decision. I am an only child and my dad and I were very close. I have not really had time to grieve for him as I am having to look after my mum who has oncoming dementia and most days doesn’t even remember that he is no longer here. I have no answers but just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Its pure bloody awful
Thank you it’s so tough isn’t it my mom lives on her own and is refusing any help I don’t know how long she will be able to live there with her dementia I am an only child as well so everything is falling on me to sort out as well as looking after two children of 5 and 4. I hope it gets easier for you and you get some support and a break. Message me anytime for support look after yourself.