I lost my Dad almost 4 weeks ago to cancer.
He was diagnosed in march with stage 4 lung cancer and 7 months later hes gone.
He was only 69 and so fit.
We had the funeral this week and it was the worse day of my life but also beautiful and an amazing day.
Ive returned to work as im trying to get back to normal.
I just feel people are sick of me talking about it and him.
We were really close and i took the last couple of months to be with him and help my step mum.
I feel bad for trying to get on with life without him xx
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Hello @Dee77 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
I lost my Dad in August and though I’m back at work my body is there but my mind isn’t ! It’s hard really hard! I feel for you I wouldn’t want anyone to feel the pain I do. All I know it takes time and if we didn’t love them it wouldn’t hurt but I wouldn’t swap that love for anything
Im so sorry for your loss.
My Dad passed away very suddenly in April. I’m 39 years old and he’s been my hero my whole life. I still havent accepted it, but it is starting to feel real now. I don’t believe it’s possible to go back to normal as in the way we were when our Dads were still here, I think that unfortunately we have to find a new normal. Part of your new normal - for now at least - may include talking about your Dad a lot, and I think thats a good way to be for as long as it takes.
I went back to work after 6 weeks but I used work as a distraction from reality. That caught up with me and I ended up having a huge breakdown. I guess the ppint I’m trying to make here is that if you feel the need to talk about your Dad then it’s important to do that. I’m sorry as well that you feel like people are tired of hearing you talk about your Dad. If you ever feel unable to talk to people around you then please talk about him here - don’t put too much pressure on yourself to try to move on or be a certain way.
I believe 100% that our Dads are still here, and that we still have a relationship and bond with them, albeit a different one where we cant see, hear, or hug them, so I often still talk to my Dad as well 