My Dad passed away in the early hours of boxing day after not eating or drinking for 7 days. We have not had his funeral yet. I have all sorts of different emotions. He was not always an easy man to get on with and we had a strained relationship where we didn’t speak for about 3 years. I have done things that I am not proud of and I am finding myself asking for his foregiveness. I feel that I don’t have the right to grieve him but one of the long lasting memories I have of him is when I was detained under the mental health act and he put his arm around me and took me into the psychiatric unit and this was a man who never hugged me. I have various mental health problems including bipolar and clinical depression and I was not prepared for the depression I am feeling. I can’t be bothered to do anything and just want to lie in bed in the dark and I don’t know who to talk to.
Hello @Debs5396,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to look at Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex