Hi everyone, I’ve recently discovered this community chat and feel it will be good for me to discuss with others life recently and try and help others too. Today is 4 months since my grandad unexpectedly passed away, unfortunately I was first on the scene, he had passed away in his home in front of my nan who was unable to help herself. When I got there I already knew he had gone. I had to call for the ambulance and the police showed up too, what took probably only 5 minutes felt like forever. I had to try and save him by resuscitating him but he had already gone and I think that’s the hardest part for me knowing I tried but there was nothing I could have done. I get the image in my mind a lot of him passed away and I really struggle with that. The only thing I can do to get rid of it is watch something or scroll mindlessly on my phone. Not sure how else to get round it, just missing him a lot he was the person I would go to for everything and visit him a couple times a week, grief is weird and I just not sure if I’m coping with it correctly or not.
Hello @coco03,
Thank you for reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your grandad. It sounds like it was quite traumatic for you and it’s understandable that you can’t get the image out of your mind. Please do know there is no, “correct” way to cope with grief - however you’re feeling right now is completely valid.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I just wanted to let you know that you have been heard.
Take care,
Seaneen