Im finding it so hard to be strong for others atm. We lost our beautiful granddaughter on the 29th nov this yr, she was only 6mths old, we r absolutely devastated, we were very much on hands grandparents and even had her and her brother living with us for weeks at a time as her mum (our daughter) had a lot of struggles being a single mum. We think its cot death but wont know for months, possibly never know. Either way shes never coming back and i just cant get my head around that 
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Hello @Lola123 ,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling absolutely devastated. I’m so sorry to hear about your beautiful granddaughter. The distress that you must all be feeling along with wanting to be strong for your daughter is so very difficult for you. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also find the following helpful to you and your family
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Child Bereavement UK support families with the loss of a child. They also support bereaved children. You can call their helpline on 0800 02 888 40.
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The Compassionate Friends support families who have lost a child of any age. They have a grief companion scheme where you can get 1-1 support from another bereaved parent. You can call them on 0345 123 2304.
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Tommy’s support anyone with the loss of a baby. They have a helpline on 0800 0147 800 or email midwife@tommys.org. They also have a baby loss support Facebook group.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Lola, I am crushed for you. I am so very sorry that your baby grand daughter died. It is unimaginable, the worst thing to ever happen to anyone. It is just not right. not right at all.
How can you possibly wrap your head around this? You can’t. It is horrible and nothing I have to say will help. Just know that I am hurt for you and wish to high Heaven this had not happened.
Someone here who has lost a child will surely chime in with some helpful suggestions, although I can not think of anything that would be the least bit comforting.
So sorry. 
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