I lost my granny (dads mum) in April this year suddenly. My granny was everything to me, she was like a mum to me, my best friend, my nurse, I would tell her everything and I trusted her with my life. At the start I felt numb and to be honest I do still have that feeling to some extent but now within the last few weeks I have cried, I feel like a part of me died that day she did. My family just celebrated her first birthday without her being here and now Christmas is coming up and it is the first without her, it will be hard because my family all got together at her house on that day every year to exchange gifts.
This year my mums family are all spending Christmas together at a lodge because we also nearly lost my other grandmother (my grandmother, mums mum). This was sudden and unexpected also. I have spoken to my mum and explained that I will find Christmas this year hard so if I need to leave and go for a walk not to worry I just need space.
I have so many thoughts and feelings going on inside my head. I haven’t spoken to anyone about how I am feeling because I don’t want to upset anyone, I am also not very good at talking to people in general about how I feel.
Thank you for so bravely sharing this with the community. I’m so sorry to hear about your granny.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you. Many of our members have experienced the death of their grandparent and will understand some of what you’re going through. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a grandparent category. But there you will find lots of conversations from other members who are coping with their grief. You may find some comfort in knowing you are not alone.
You may also find these Sue Ryder resources helpful right now.
Holidays and special occasions can be an especially painful time - and often even more so when they’re the ‘firsts’. Please know that there is lots of support available if you need it. We have advice and support on coping with grief at Christmas on our website.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support too. Keep reaching out and take care
I’m unfortunately very recently now grieving the loss of my Nan, who was my best friend. It does hurt, a huge amount and I really feel your pain.
Sadly I have also lost my Mum and Grandad, but this one does feel incredibly heavy. You’re allowed to grieve, you’re allowed to be sad, especially at Christmas and traditions being changed - that’s what I’m really struggling to come to terms with.
I am trying to embrace the little things we appreciated together and have little momentous to keep her spirit with me - on the days I am stronger - other days I cannot bare it. Accepting you’re struggling is a big step. Finding the things that bring you comfort like walks is great and maybe incorporate a challenge to keep your mind occupied and a shift in focus?
I am so sorry that you are experiencing this also and I am sorry that you have lost your mum and grandad also I can understand why this is so hard for you.
I have never dealt with this before. I am holding on to all the memories we have together.
I can relate with you on some days being easier than others.
