Hi, I am only eight weeks into losing my husband, I just cry all the time even though I keep busy running my own business, the house is just so empty as he was a very big personality, after the funeral everyone goes back to their usual lives except you and no one understands unless they have been through it, some days I just think I can’t carry on , but somehow you have to
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Hi @Muttley1
It’s week nine for me: my amazing husband of 33 years died suddenly and unexpectedly on 1st March. My world stopped.
I have ok days and terrible days. I forget and then remember. I’ve lost my incredible soulmate but also my future: we had such incredible plans for our retirement. All gone.
I’m blessed with brilliant friends but they are grieving as well, and unless you’ve lost a partner you have no idea of the ps
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Hi Jamie,
It’s so difficult to explain the absolute pain you feel when that special person isn’t there anymore, you think about what the future holds without them. Everyone keeps saying it will get easier but how long does it take, and when you feel so empty without them it’s hard to believe it will get easier, I hope so for us and everyone who has lost someone, I go for long walks with the dogs to try and keep busy, I have my work but at the moment it feels like I am just on automatic, and not really enjoying anything,
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I understand how you feel, its been 5 months now since I lost my beloved husband.
I haven’t stopped crying since the day he went.
After 22 years of being us its now just me, I’ve lost half of me and struggling without him. He was my everything, my soul mate and now my heart is broken 
I don’t want to be here anymore without him.
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Hi Poppet,
That’s exactly how I feel, I don’t know how to go on without him, he was everything to me, yet I know that we have to build a different life now and everyone keeps saying he wouldn’t want you to be sad, but I don’t know how to be anything else,
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Me too, I miss him everyday, I never thought I would lose him at 50 and be a widow at 51.
We had our whole future together and now its gone. We were supposed to grow old together, now I am on my own. It hurts, I want to go back to this time last year.
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I’m so sad for you, that’s very young to lose him, my husband was twenty years older than me and he had dementia, although that’s not what he died from, I looked after him and run my business, so every minute of the day was full, and now it’s just so empty
He had cancer, from diagnosis to him passing away, I had 4 weeks with him, we had just celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary in October.
The hospital kept sending him home every time without doing anything, he was told it might be cancer and still did nothing.
If they had he might have had a chance to be here with me.
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That is what happened to my husband, not cancer but hospital negligence, and it could have been avoided, it makes his death even harder to accept, I feel your pain
Yes, its the hurt and anger towards the hospital. When he got taken in and on the ward, the Urology consultant came to see him and sorry its the NHS fault, you were forgotten, like he was nothing, he was the one who told him it was cancer and still sent him home without doing anything.
He had a chance to be here if they had done something sooner.
That’s terrible, I had a whole catalogue of things going wrong at the hospital, which inevitably led to his death, otherwise he could have still been here, it’s harder to accept when you know something could have been done and it wasn’t. I don’t know how any of us carry on,
I don’t want to go on without him, I actually heard from the hospital and they admitted that they forgot about him and he should have had his operation, if he did they might have found it sooner
I can’t get past the hurt and anger
I feel the same, the people you put your trust in have let your soulmate die, I can never forgive them, I feel so much pain that he was let down
No neither can I, Mark was so angry with them, he made me promise to carry on with the complaint
They ruin so many families
Absolutely, you must get justice for him,
I am doing the same, the hospital is under investigation, good luck
Ive already got answers, they said yes he was forgotten and yes he should have had his operation 6 weeks after April. My solicitors is handling the complaint.
Mark wants it to not happen to anyone else and their families.
I honestly never thought that they would own upto his cancer delay, I hope he knows that I kept my promise and didn’t give up fighting.
I just wish he was here instead
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Well done, we all have to try and stop this from keep happening, I will keep doing everything I can to get justice for my husband,