Could anyone on here tell me what a bereavement cafe is like i would like to go to the sue ryder one in my area but i am so.unsure its the meeting people that scares me i think i have been on my.own to long now that i am struggling with going out and.meeting anybody and then there is the tears which i know is.going to happen i have never felt this unsure about anything in my life meeting new.people at my age is hard you would think i am old well i am only 68 lost my husband at 63 i think if i had done this sooner it.might have been easier on me just after some help and advice please
I am only 57 and widowed twice. I also have an estranged child. I do not want to bring my situation to anyone in person because I respect their personal life.
Do you read? Or like art? To me this has been an enduring message of processing
You said you would knit?
I have a scarf one made of white pink and purple I bought at a craft show.
Also my experience in human rights law has brought me close to the blitz of london. I was hired to examine photos. I cannot say how much I admire your fortitude.
I have been to a bereavement cafe in my area although it was not a SR one. It was very friendly. The people that hosted it were all volunteers with experience of being bereaved. I was made to feel very welcome and people were sitting in small groups chatting if they felt like or just listening. It was okay to cry. It felt safe to just be as you wanted.
It takes a great deal of courage to get out of the house and join in with something but you can leave anytime and don’t have to go back if it’s not for you.
I’ve been to one and going again this afternoon. My first time the person that organised it came and sat with me, bought coffee and cake too. I did get upset but no one batted an eye. Then he introduced me to a counsellor, she was lovely. No pressure to talk but but a private room if you wanted too. Mostly I just listened but there was one lady in a similar position to me (wanting to move house) I’m hoping this afternoon she’ll be there again. That’s the good part, everyone understands.
Please go, as others have said if it’s not for you you don’t have to go again.
Sarah I would definitely go, it will take courage to walk through the door, but once you have you will meet people who understand our situation. The conversation tends to be about anything but the difference is you can if you want to talk about your loss you will find others that are feeling just the same as you and are willing to talk about it. Don’t worry about tears every body there knows what grief feels like.
I went a bereavement cafe yesterday for the first time yesterday it was hard going through the door. When I got in I was made to feel very welcome. There were counsellors who came to talk to you as well as volunteers. It doesn’t matter if you cry every one understands. It was nice to talk about how you are feeling, everyone understands. I come away feeling so much lighter.