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Why do I do this everytime my nephew sent me a txt to ask if we where going out tomorrow it was the way he prased it that made me feel that he was getting fed up with me everybody sooner or later does and then thy dissappear I felt fed up I asked him if he was fed up with me and he said no why do you think like that so I said to him that I would not blame him everybody does eventually we are going out tomorrow but I still feel.that after 5yrs it might have had enough of me I cannot cope with this anymore this is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life and I just want paul back then everything would be OK.
Sarah
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Hi Sarah,
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. I’m sure your nephew meant well with his message sometimes the way things are written can come across differently than intended, especially when we’re already feeling a bit low.
I’m also so sorry that even after 5 years you still miss your husband like it was yesterday. Grief doesn’t follow a timeline, and it just shows how much love was there. In 4 days it will be 11 months since my partner suddenly passed away. We were together for 21 years. In that time, I’ve learned one very important thing: no one is coming to save you. It’s just me and my two dogs, two friends, family in another country, and colleagues at work. That’s all. I had to learn very quickly how to be on my own. That doesn’t change the fact that I miss Marek every single day. But I know he wouldn’t want to see me falling apart, he would want me to be strong and brave.
At the end of the day, we will all leave this world one day, so sometimes we have to let certain things go and just keep moving forward.
Keep your head up, Sarah. You are a strong woman, and you will get through this. Even on the days when no one calls, so what? Do something for yourself. Watch a nice series, bake a cake, and have a coffee.
You’ve got this 
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Hi Sarah, have you ever thought about doing charity work. I know you find it difficult to get around but there are also some charities like Befriending that do 30 minute calls to people who are lonely. Maybe it would help. Just a thought.
Wishing you all the best
Tom 
Hi Justyna, I think you are right it’s important to try and do the best we can. Our loved ones would want us to be happy
I hope you have a peaceful week
All the best
Tom
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