Hi
What a rotten week I have ended up having and it is still going on oh how I wish paul could give me a hug and make all of this go away help me put everything right that I got so wrong I am great at getting things wrong at the moment ,the only good thing that came out of last week is that I got a nhs dentist after waiting years but that is something I have to face myself bit scary and teary it was something we did together that was strange just making my appointment and I will be in full panic mode that day I am panicking know and its not till the beginning of May silly I know
Sarah 
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Hi Sarah, I don’t like going to the dentist either. I had a few bad experiences as a child. I was last there about a month after my partner had died suddenly. He always used to drive me there since his retiral. That last time my sister took me as I don’t drive. Even sitting in the dentist’s chair I kept thinking about him. It was sad coming out as he should have been sitting in the car waiting for me. The memories are everywhere. It will be seven months since he died next week. The sadness and sense of loss are still so intense. We were together for almost 40 years. I find it very difficult to contemplate the future. Take care.
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Reminds me I have to book appointment at the dentist. My NHS appointment was cancelled to make way for a private patient. I was told that the only way I could avoid being messed about was to pay privately. A case of like it or lump it. Then I get reminded if I do not keep regular appointments I will lose nhs status so catch 22.
I still have to pay even though nothing wrong. Then have to pay for half a mouth full of teeth for cleaning full price privately which is unfair. They say takes same time but untrue. I get very stewed up going to the dentist. If I am kept waiting I am thinking of the car park running out as they have no car parking on site. Going on the bus is stressful. Sometimes my son has taken me. I have been told off by dentists who were unsuitable for me but then struck lucky. I understand how you feel when widowed because my husband was very good and waited outside. I miss that even after three and a half years. It makes it more horrid the memories of him kindly waiting. The same with the optician which is another thing. MOT occured for car when he was dying in hospital so trigger time. He used to say you will be alright when he was in hospital. That rings in my ear.
Hi norma 1
I am absolutely petrified of the dentist.when I went with paul I felt not to bad he always had a way of making it easier after he got poorly he went under a community dentist I too got under that dentist because of my nerves so we both went together I was OK with that as I still had paul with me but then they said to me because of cut backs they could no longer see me so I had to find a dentists and the NHS dentists where few and far.between after paul passed away I had to.pay privately and at a filling costing me £230 a filling it was costing me a fortune and I am sure the one i lost is one of them so I went on some waiting lists and finally got a.call never been to this.dentists and with my panic attacks I am so scared of what is going to happen just needed paul there with me to hold my hand I cry with.panic and fear like a big baby and there is nobody to take.me there not looking forward.to it.at all dreading it really
Sarah 
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Hi norma1
I absolutely hate it its one of the jobs I would always put off for as long as I can again like you I have a phobia about them since I was young I had an old dentist which when I went to him I had an abscess on my front toith it had to be the front didn’t it he the told me he had to drill through my tooth to let it drain but could give me no pain relief and that was awful he did all off that and then told me later I had to have the tooth removed it was my front one and that made me very conscious so he told me I could have a false one on plate as he had removed my root and could bot have one to screw.in I was devastated and over the years my other dentist have added teeth to it not happy at all I would love to get my smile back but when I asked the private dentist about making anew one she just said why do you want a new one hopefully this dentist might help me I can only hope
Sarah
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I know many people who have said they have spent thousands on having their teeth made p
Hi enorac
I have spent a lot of money on just private fillings one of which has now come.out its after 3months so ni come back unless you pay again its very frustrating I am hoping this nhs one will be better and help me and having the phobia is not helping my nephew was the same until he got a nhs dentist then they help him get his teeth sorted i am hoping this one will help me too fingers crossed
Sarah