Hi
I am going to tell you all about the most wonderful man in this world my husband he was perfect and I know people will say that’s not possible well let me tell you it is from the moment of our blind date I met this gorgeous looking guy and I fell head over heels for him we met in 10th Jan 1975 and got married in 24th July 1976 and stayed married for 44 wonderful year people say there is no such thing as the perfect husband well I differ to agree mine was perfect he gave me everything, he new I was fed up with work as working a Saturday meant I lost out on going to wedding so herald me if I wanted I could give up worthy earned enough to pay the bills and mortgage so I gave up work at the ripe old age of 23 yrs old although I stayed at homei did do a part time job for pin money and it suited us , my husband cooked cleaned , washed up ,and could also use the washing machine as well I was one spoilt little lady he even taught me to drive and bought me my own car as he had a company one he even bought me a static caravan , he even cleaned my car inside and out checked my oil , water, tires all I had to do was put petrol in it and drive it when our two nephews came along had the joy of looking after them as they lived 3 doors away from me and my sister in law worked as well and my brother was a hgv driver and worked away so it benefitted all of us I loved looking after them as I loved kids one day I went to work and our house was in a statewide the toys all over I was running late so I thought I will tidy up when I got home this was before I drove and he picked me up from work and we got home he had cleaned up all the toys where put away dusted and vacuum up and started the dinner and he never complained that was my husband , at the age of 44yrs old he had an accident falling down a flight of stairs into a cellar at home he fractured his skull and damaged his spinal cord paralysed from the neck down we had a great surgeon that did an operation called a lemanictamy which takes out all of the broken bits and hopefully he would get some mobility back he wanted this operation but one problem he could not sign for it so I had to I told the surgeon please make sure he is alright and comes back to me safely as his family would blame me as I signed the forms he did come back to me and I was so grateful to this surgeon 10 days later we got transfered to pinderfields hospital as paul needed a lot of rehab and I was allowed to stay all day with him so I did with a lot of physio he did get a little bit of mobility back he was like a little baby learning to walk again but he needed a wheelchair this guy to all of this in his stride with a smile on his face , then he got prostrate cancer at 50yrs old dealt with it lokie a trooper and his gorgeous smile still intact he then had 6 strokes the sixth one doing the most damage but all still with his lovely smile never a complaint or moan he then had three bouts of phenomena and still smiling I never new a man like that , that could take all off that and still smile the last one was a silly chest infection which we where treating at home but for some unknown reason paul wanted to go to hospital something he never liked hospitals at all I did not want him to go but it was his decision and I could not go with him as covid Timeyou see every hospital stay I would be there at lunch time and not leave him till 12/1am in the morning he was a complex case and I would stay to make sure everything was done right his plan needed to be followed by precise precision and that’s why I was always there I needed it to go right for him as he had put his life in my hands I knew this time he went in that things would not go right and I was so right they stopped his bowel care and that’s when it went wrong when I finally found out what they had done it was to late infection got in and then he would die I was so angry with the doctors I was then told on the 1st Sept 2020 by a doctor that my beautiful husband had 24/48 hrs left to live I told the doctor I want him home now as we had made a promise to one an other if we ever got told bad news we could be at home for that and nobody was going to stop me taking him home I got his care team manager in and Claire was wonderful she was as determined as me to make it happen and happen it did I never shed a tear that day was strong for paul he needed me we got him home and settled into bed Charlotte or other carer was with us and made drinks for us we settled down for what we thought was going to be a long two days but I did not care as long as paulmwas at home and his wishes catered for my family all arrived one brother with my two nephews and the other brother with my niece and then pauls nephew came in and I said to Paul oh paul jason is here now and he looked at me his eyes shut and just went it was so peaceful Claire then said to me that paul had gone I said no he is sleeping but he had gone I never got to say goodbye or give him on last kiss now my nightmare started I had just lost the love of my life the one guy thatvi spent 44 wonderful yrs together then on the 1st Sept 2020 that was all gone so you see people I had it all and now it’s gone only hope someday I will find someone To share what’s left of my life as I know that’s what paul would want for me he would have wanted me to be happy but at this moment I am not some people say I am to chatty but I am nice with it I can only hope I find someone as caring as him to help me through this and be happy again I can only life in hope I will try my lovely man you made me the happiest girl alive to have you and they broke the mould when they made you that’s for sure
To and for my wonderful beautiful perfect husband this is our story and my tribute to you my lovely man love you always miss you more 
Sarah your loving wife
