Losing my husband

Losing a partner
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Hi

Someone told me that i was lucky as i had 44yrs with my husband and they had only had 1yr with thier partner well i think that is such an insestive thing to say to a person who is grieving to me it just makes things harder for me as i would have more to miss and i really do miss him i would never be that insensitive to anybody at all i still cry everyday and that is so normal when you wake up and they are not there who would not feel like that we ar all going through the same thing on here we have all lost someone be it a wife/husbands/ life partner/ sister/ brother /mum or dad or even grandparents we are all suffering a loss in one way or another so please be kind to one and other please think before you write or speak to someone we are in the same boat
Sweetlady

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Hi Sarah, that was not a kind thing to say, but perhaps in their grief theyre not realising what theyre really saying. I also had 44 years with my beloved Norm, the last few days I just keep feeling sadder and sadder, perhaps its hearing all the laughter in the neighbours garden. I cant take away your grief, like mine it eats into your soul. The only solace for a lot of us is being able to tell our stories and sadness and know that everyone else here knows exactly what hell were going through. Hoping you can find a little bit of peace this evening.
Helen

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Hi helen

Thank you for your kind words yes it does eat away at you i have been poorly today and had to cancel my meal.out with my nephew now i just need someone to talk to someone who.understands all of this grief i went back to bed earlier i felt a bit better now its hit me again and i think i will go back to bed not.sleep just stare at the cieling wishing i had someone to talk to there is no one thats the problem just one person to ring or talk to would be nice i feel.so alone and i do.not.like it .
Sweetlady

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Sarah, all you can do is post on here if, like me, you have no one nearby who cares. I really have no advice to offer, I am at the moment sobbing my heart out, I think Im torturing myself looking at old photos, 70s music on. May we all here find peace one day. x

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Hello, I also look at pictures of my beloved husband and how I wish I was back in those precious moments with him. Im also listening to music, from the eighties , that’s when my husband and I met.:heart_eyes: God bless

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Hi helen
I did not.mean to make you cry about your husband i to love 70s music it reminds me of paul how can it not but like you say it makes.you cry i cannot think of one thing that.o do not cry at wven when i am.having a shower it takes me back to when he first started needing help and we used to shower together i used to think well if i am going to get wet showering him then i might as well get a shower to i met paul in 1975 jan 10th it was a blind date and that was ot we where never apart till now and that is what i find so hard bieng on my own never thought i would be .
Sweetlady